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Adora´s last [type] ..Rise But Not Shine

Thanks for highlighting this post to me. I read through and I REALLY admire you for being able to put up with it. It was with a mixture of anger and sadness that I write this – for perhaps I have only heard of such recounts and have yet to come across the details.

You must have been so upset!

My husband and I are of Chinese descent, but he’s Peranakan while I’m Indonesian Chinese. My MIL came over every day during the confinement period (we stay with my Mum), cooking for me and taking care of the baby so that I can have as much rest as possible to recuperate. She cooks, and I eat because I believe its best. I love liver and pork leg, so it wasn’t much of a problem. It was lucky during the serving of papaya soup, my husband was at dinner as well, so he said: NO MORE! without any prompting from me. I wasn’t allowed to shower for 7 days, but of course I did (every evening after my MIL went home) with my husband’s help in ensuring that surgery remained dry.

I produced more than enough BM, but after 2 weeks, it was never enough for the bub. He had a voracious appetite (up till now) so we supplemented. I stopped when I went back to work after 4 months as the situation didn’t allow me to fully BF my son.

My MIL knows that I bathed and we secretly went out in the late evenings for supper… but I suppose we have a mutual understanding of sorts. As long as I observe certain practices, she’d overlook others :)

I really don’t know what I would have done if I were in your shoes. It’s a wonder how you even managed to stay sane through all that. Makes me feel ashamed that just a few days ago, I declared to the hubs that should we have another baby, I’m doing away with all the ‘confinement stuff’.

Hats off.
Regina´s last [type] ..Let’s do the Hokey Pokey!

I feel so sorry for you for having to experience this. As a mother, our main priority will be the welfare of our child, and because of your MIL, you are not able to do what is best for your baby.

For me, i am so ashame to say that i was the one whom wanted to give up breastfeeding. My MIL and husband were supportive, but due to the low supply of my BM, i simply give up.

Sometimes, when i look back, i regret my selfish decision at that time, i should have persisted, or seek help when i ‘hit the wall’…..i simply, choose the easy way out.

I hope you will sort things out with your MIL and convince her that BM is the BEST! How about getting your husband to speak to her now.

You can’t wait till after your confinement, cos your baby would have gotten use to the formula milk! By then, it might be too late.

Try printing out some documents or information about BM, especially those articles that says BM is BETTER than FM, show it to your hubby, let him do the talking….