Comments on: Clash of the Titans!

By: emelda

emelda — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 12:42:24 +0000

I hope you feel better now dear.. HUGS!! BIG HUGS!!! emeldas last blog post..Desperate will never do..

By: amber

amber — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 14:11:55 +0000

Wow! I think your husband and mine would be best friends!! I thought it was because he and I are from different cultures! We have the same arguments as you do. My mother was tortured as a child at dinner time so growing up my mother would always eat by herself away from the family. I made it a rule to make family dinners as fun as possible, but my husband is so impatient when it comes to the children. If they drop food he nearly freaks out! I tell him, "they are just kids, dropping food is normal, you yell at them like you caught them smoking crack!" He is getting better. ambers last blog post..The Last Legion

By: SUhnaya

SUhnaya — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 13:13:22 +0000

I undersstand what u are goign thru… Yuvan is also a relatively slow eater n often what he gets to hear is ” swalllowwwwww ..” but i too let him choose what he wants to eats i do beleive in that.. even at home with the two gravies n one veggie or whatever i cook he gets to choose what he wants to eat… Drinkign n eating can be togther…as long as he finishes his food n enjoys food.. mm..i still agree that punishment is not the way.but don worry everythign will fall in its place.. m happy that the kids enjoyed their meal yesterday relax……

By: Erin

Erin — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 12:14:38 +0000

um, I don’t always like interjecting my two cents but here it is anyhow. It seems to me this is not an issue over food at all (for Allen – sorry Allen) but over control. And Allen might be able to win the battle now but he might be laying the groundwork for deep ceeded problems for your kids as they grow. I had taken my daughter to a pediatrician earlier, years ago, to ask about her issues of control. She warned me that it is very dangerous to try to micro-control eating issues. Often kids develope eating disorders later in life, anorexia or bulemia or over indulgence, as a way to assert their own need for control that their parents asserted while they were young.

This is my advice, set up simple rules. No one leaves the table until everyone has tried a portion of everything. When dinner’s over, everyone helps in cleaning and no one snacks after dinner for an alloted time period. If someone’s hungry then, remind them to eat more of their dinner next time. Eventually they’ll learn. And dinner should be enjoyable, not stressful. Who looks forward to sitting down to stress? Make the table a sacred space, a safe space, predictable. Everyone gets a time to share something important to them.

If you force it they’re not learning anything, they will simply be evading the punishment. That’s not learning. (Hope this helps. Maybe investigate eating issues on-line while involving Allen? Oh, and really there’s no problem with drinking while eating. That’s simply preferential. If I had to eat without drinking I’m afraid I wouldn’t bother eating. I’d go mad.)

By: cendrine

cendrine — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 16:10:29 +0000

Guys are always the same, their patience always run out fast, maybe not all, but majority. Allowing the child learning to eat themselves is an act of independence, and that’s what childcare centre practices. But for me, my allowance for Zann is 30mins. After that, I discard those leftovers.

Chill, Mummy Angeline.

By: Siaw Lee

Siaw Lee — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:24:09 +0000

I am with you about kids feeding themselves. I let Renae feed herself since she's 2, she can finish her food without making any mess on the table or floor. Some times I watch my mother inlaw feeding her the mashed potato cooked with brown rice powder and veges, see her feeling wanna vomit out the food, heartache. She said that it's good nutritions, but Renae have been eating that for 2 years, since she's 4 months old! Sigh. Siaw Lees last blog post..1?2?3?4?5?6?7?????????

By: Hazel

Hazel — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 06:04:37 +0000

wow, u r realy expert in this. thanks for sharing

By: Juliana RW

Juliana RW — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:39:13 +0000

wow..you are cool, Angeline

btw, don’t miss my post today. It is about Jason’s new bed.