Comments on: Expectations-the Stumbling Block in Parenting?

By: alternative-mom

alternative-mom — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:07:26 +0000

I’ve just popped over to your blog for the first time and it’s good to read from someone who shares honestly.

I’ve a 5 yr old and I experience the same frustration, even more so when I’m a SAHM and face the same issues day in and out. The Alternative Dad gives me an answer that makes me ponder each time I ask him/myself, “What’s wrong with this girl?” “Maybe there is nothing wrong, just a phrase she is going through?”

While the answer puts things into perspective, I do think that children can do whatever they are tasked with excellence but will turn to ‘laziness’ or ‘easy way out’ as a ‘mean to the end’, eg the milk bottle incident cited. That’s probably where, as parents, we need to be vigilant and not allow the bad habits to become rooted, but of course, I know how or what it’s like. It can get one quite mad having to keep constant check on such habits.

I just wish that sometimes, I can help my children change out of their habits by using more benevolence than shouts and frustrations. It isn’t easy but it is worth it.

Waiting to read your success after this post!
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By: kkf

kkf — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 03:15:57 +0000

parenting is indeed very challenging, and hope all of us can do it well…

By: Blessed mom

Blessed mom — Sat, 30 May 2009 14:20:16 +0000

kids changes..like my girl, rachel. she used to be the perfect darling any mommy would want but has now turn into a irritable one..almost every day, she will do things she knows she shouldn’t!!

i wonder too if my darling will ever be back..

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By: Im Being Held Hostage

Im Being Held Hostage — Fri, 29 May 2009 14:20:43 +0000

That is tough!
I wouldn’t completely rule out medical though at this stage. We fought everyone over our oldest boy and now in hindsight I wish I had had him tested when he was young–it would’ve saved him from so many adults thinking he was trying to be bad or purposely aggravating them. If it is just an age thing, or jealousy of a younger sibling, your consistency should pay off. You just keep loving them (and looking forward to bedtime)

By: slavemom

slavemom — Fri, 29 May 2009 13:46:24 +0000

Now I know y my 6 yo girl gets on my nerve so frequently these days. It’s actually “normal”. I think it’s becoz they’re jes plain playful. Hence the ‘unacceptable’ behaviour for their age. We’ll hang in there together ya.

By: Juliana RW

Juliana RW — Fri, 29 May 2009 05:25:35 +0000

Sometimes I feel "tired" as well as mother. Have a nice weekend, Angeline. Juliana RWs last blog post..At Ecomare

By: Tin

Tin — Fri, 29 May 2009 03:38:03 +0000

I think most (if not all) 5-year olds are like that. It is just another challenging phase that parents need to go through. They are constantly testing our patience and getting on our nerves. I would say they are not going backward but are more “hong sim” (hokkien), more playful and mischievious, and you find that the once all-so-good child suddenly change to another person! We just have to keep on reminding them of their bad behaviours, explain, nag… (haha)… Just hang in there and remember this phase will PASS! Jia You!

By: angie

angie — Fri, 29 May 2009 03:20:52 +0000

jiayou~~~