Patience Exhausted
Parenting, Preschool, School-study January 8th, 2009Its the 4th day since school re-opens. Some children have stopped crying. Others continued. Kids who didn’t cry previously started to cry today.
Desperation on the parents’ faces of children who haven’t been cooperative since day one were obvious.
Some have chosen another candidate to bring the child to school, while hiding behind the pillar and hoping for miracles.
Rewards were withdrawn and coaxing words have changed to threatening sentences:
“STOP CRYING or I’ll cane you”
“Don’t force me to beat you in front of everyone here. Stop Crying!”
“You are a disgrace! Look! Other children are not crying…”
“Stop crying RIGHT NOW or you’ll ‘get-it-from-me’ when you go home later!”
“Stop these nonsense (kicking and screaming) now, or I’ll LEAVE YOU HERE!”
“If you continue to cry, the teacher will lock you in the toilet!”
HUH???!! Horrible words were already so piercing to my ears. Can you imagine what is going through the little ones’ minds?! As if it wasn’t bad enough, even the Teacher has became the ‘bad’ guy. If I’m the kid, I’ll rather get the cane than to leave me in that classroom with a Monster!
Oh parents, I know your patience have exhausted but please… watch your words…your little one would think that you do not love them anymore….
Too bad, the teacher was too busy with another yelling kid, whose parent had ‘ran’ away after ‘pushing’ the kid to the teacher; I’m so interested to see her reaction to that ‘accusation’….
I love what Mdm Normah did when Keatkeat started his preschool life 3 years back. She asked me to join my crying son into the class, till he was emotionally stable or when he was too engrossed with the story-telling session; before I ‘sneaked’ out.
For Binbin’s class, some parents just stayed in even though its obvious on the teacher’s face that she would rather handle the crying children then to have the parents in class….
hmmm…..
I truly appreciate the school’s idea of having an hour for the first week. Tomorrow will be the last day for the 1hour class. *Deep Breath* I can’t imagine what would happen next week, when the crying kids have to stay in for 3 hours….
…what will be, will be….
January 9th, 2009 at 2:43 am
Those sure are awful statements for a parent to say! I taught preschool for awhile and we would always encourage parents to stay with the child to help make the transition to preschool easier.
January 9th, 2009 at 4:04 am
Threatening a child isn’t going to help them to stop crying. Those poor kids!
January 9th, 2009 at 9:18 am
I guess the parents are really tired, desperate and frustrated. Sigh…Parenthood..
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January 9th, 2009 at 9:46 am
I think some parents have let their emotions control their mind and they say such. They are desperate and stressed up at that moment.
Actually I do not prefer to sneak out, I rather let the teacher handle my crying child whom I promise I will be back for him later. hehe :D
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January 9th, 2009 at 10:01 am
ohhh they put up such horrible signs? omg!
January 9th, 2009 at 10:06 am
Those threats are so scary! I wouldn’t wanna be in the shoes of that kid…
January 9th, 2009 at 10:45 am
those threats are terrible to use on a 3yrs old kid who just started school!! Its only 2nd day, shouldn’t they be more patience???
Pity those kids..
January 9th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
Agree that such statements from the parents can be very bad for the child.
But what desperation! And the teacher herself yelling? That would have made matters so much worse!
What will be will be indeed….
January 9th, 2009 at 6:59 pm
Those parents should really watch what words come out from their mouth. By saying such “threats” they are not only installing fear but painting a really bad picture of school and going there to study to their own kid. They are only setting up their kids to HATE school.
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January 9th, 2009 at 7:54 pm
Oh c’mon!….There’s a name for it!…Ignorance….
Usually when I first leave my kids in their first day at school I’m the one who starts crying!LOL!
xoxoxo
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January 9th, 2009 at 9:24 pm
wat the hell are these people saying!! nice parents!
January 9th, 2009 at 11:53 pm
My personal experience when I first put Jaimie in CCC — children will cry harder when they see their parents around. they will stop when the parents leave. no child will cry forever in school. hence, you just need to steel your heart (difficult!! but it is something u hv to do for the good of your child) and leave. no need to feel frustrated over the seperation anxiety.
January 10th, 2009 at 3:04 am
I couldn’t imagine using such words with my children when they were young…they are fearful enough about the new environment with out the threat of being caned if they don’t stop crying….
I guess I was fortunate…my girls never cried when I left them at school….even when I took them to pre school the actually looked forward to it..they loved the crafts,the story time, snack time…I think the only time they didn’t like in preschool was the nap time…..but then when they went to kindergarden…they thought they were all grown up because they didn’t have to have nap time….I would have to agree with Angie…I found those children who had been prepared for school and told that they would be with other children etc…and that you would be there at the door when their day was through faired better than those children who hadn’t been prepared.
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January 12th, 2009 at 7:13 am
Some parents, I’m afraid, are not so smart. There’s no bullying anyone into happiness and security. It comes with time and support.
January 12th, 2009 at 8:59 am
The school is great! They have a week for the kids to settle in. What I realised is that the children stop crying usually when they parents leave.
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January 13th, 2009 at 5:57 am
Hmmm poor little ones! How awful to be scared of where you are then terrified of your parent and the teacher as well. That makes me sad to hear…