All About Your Child

Me: “Binbin, can you not hold my wrist this way? I’m not an old woman you know? Let’s hold hands.”

Binbin: “I scared you fall down.”

Me: “I am not wearing high heels shoes, will not fall down. Come, let’s hold hands properly.”

Holding hands the proper way…

Binbin: “I will hold your wrist when you become an old auntie.”

Me: “Alright. But now, I am a young auntie.”

Binbin: “huh?! You are young aunite? Then I am a Super Young Uncle ah!”

Me: *huge laugh* “Yes, yes, yes, SUPER young uncle indeed.” *huge laugh*

Does your child like Ben 10? So far, I have yet to know of a girl who likes Ben 10. And was pleasantly surprised to see boys AND GIRLS appearing at the Ben 10 live show during the June 2010 school holidays.

Yes yes yes, this is a belated blog post. And if you can remember my few June blog post, I was hardly at home! *laugh* Always out of the house playing with my boys and having as much fun as we can as a family, which we cannot enjoy when the boys are schooling.

For those of you who likes Ben 10 would probably have gone to United Square during those 2 weeks to see Ben 10 and his cousin Gwen in action. When Ben first came out, Allan’s first comment was the same as my first thought “This is the Fat version of Ben.” *laugh*

It was pretty cool that the Ben 10 live show was a daily event and not just for the weekends. Thus as usual, we head down during the weekdays so that we need not fight with the crowd for a space on the ground.

The alien which Ben Tenison ‘changed’ into was Chromastone, which was the same Ben 10 character T-Shirt which Binbin was wearing that day. He was especially delighted. Its like seeing his favourite Ben 10 character came to life. *giggle*

Does your child like Ben 10 too?

For most of us in this comfortable safe environment in Singapore, we might not know or might not fully understand how children are being treated in other countries, like child trafficking.

Child Trafficking is something that is so common worldwide, but we are just unaware. For my young readers, child trafficking is an illegal trade in human beings for the purposes of prostitution, forced labor, child marriage and other slavery reasons.

Children who are trafficked for prostitution could end up serving as many as 30 men a day!!! Its horrible what child trafficking can do to the little minds which are suppose to be so pure and innocent.

Why am I talking about this today? I just read an email which said:

Stop Child Trafficking Now

Their Website is :  http://www.sctnow.com/

The name says it all but they are committed to stopping the illegal trade of children.. which is much more common than I would have ever thought.. and it is a worldwide problem.  The website has a lot of information on it .. but I warn you if you are like me it can be upsetting.. what some of these kids are put through is horrible…

Anyway SCTnow.com is working hard to help these kids that many times have no body to turn to for help.

SCTnow would appreciate any support but right now they are in a contest that could help them get some funding.. if you think this is a worth cause please Go and vote for them :

1. Click here to vote–
http://apps.facebook.com/apxgivesback/

2. Select Pacific Region

3. Scroll down to SCTNOW and vote for them.

Also Feel Free to follow them on  twitter  and you could retweet their tweets etc..

Thanks for any help you can provide to SCTnow.com

This was sent to me by a friend. I am not asking you to vote or anything. Just that this short email on Child Trafficking made my heart ached and reminded me that it is so important to be grateful and thankful every single day that we are in Singapore, a place where we can let our children roam around freely.

In places where child trafficking is present, children out of sight can means children out of the parent’s life. Worse, there have been cases where these child traffickers literally snatch the children away from the unwilling parent’s arms. Its unbelievable, but its true.

Child Trafficking’s bottom line is money isn’t it? When it comes to money, it is not surprising what people will do or will not do. Child Trafficking will continue if the need of money and the lost of sanity prevails.

How are we going to stop Child Trafficking, when the basis of the problem is so difficult to solve?

I have blogged about this video in my other blog before, but have yet to blog it here. The reason for the same video here is different from another blog.

Please…. Tell your child This message, so that your child will not say the same words as one of the commenters (who had ‘liked’ this YouTube video) has said:

The commenter said: “I wish my dad told me that when I was a kid. But_ he died when I was small. Now I’m in my mid 20’s and I haven’t acheived much. I hate what I’ve become. “

Don’t mush all your peas up.
Don’t dig in your taters.
Don’t bubble your milk.
Don’t throw your tomaters.’

Don’t fork your spaghetti
way up in the air,
‘cause it may slip off
and fall in your hair.

Don’t feed your dog spinach
‘cause he hates it too!
And when you eat liver,

make sure that you chew.

Don’t open your mouth
when you’re chewing your food.
It puts Mom and Dad
in a very bad mood.

~ 6 years old

This week, Keatkeat’s school is  celebrating Racial Harmony Day. It was also a week which Allan and I got a wake up call on how much we trusted our elder son…..

Monday 19th July….

Keatkeat: “Mommy this week my school is celebrating Racial Harmony Day. My teacher told me that I can wear traditional costumes for the whole week. From Monday to Friday.”

Me: “Racial Harmony Day is ONE DAY event. How is it possible that they allow you to wear traditional costume for the whole week?”

Keatkeat: “Yes yes yes! My Teacher said that this whole week is Racial Harmony Day. So everyday can don’t wear uniform and wear my dragon clothes.”

Me: “If the whole week is Racial Harmony day, then it should be called Racial Harmony Week! Keatkeat, if you remember it wrongly, then I’m afraid the security guard might not allow you to go into the school without wearing the school uniform you know that?”

Keatkeat: Still extremely confident that he did not hear wrongly. “But my teacher said can wear for the whole week because of Racial Harmony Day.”

Me: “Alright fine. You shall wear then.”

So on Tuesday he wore this (picture on left).

Guess what?

He was the ONLY ONE who was NOT in school uniform!!!

Then some parents mumbled: “Racial Harmony Day special dressing is Tomorrow.”

Oh man! What do you expect us to do?

Go back and change when we only have 5 mins left? Whereby going home already takes up 4 mins… So we just let him in and luckily the security guard did not stop him.

Can you imagine how OUTSTANDING he was, when everyone else was dressed in this way (picture on right), in blue??!!

When he came home we asked: “Did Mrs L. said anything to you about your special dressing on the wrong day?”

Keatkeat: “Nope. She did not say anything. And I asked her if I can wear this everyday for this week and she said yes.”

Our eyes widened. To us, we admit that wearing costumes for an entire week, just to celebrate ONE Racial Harmony Day sounded too ‘over’, and hence doubted our 6 year old. Furthermore, when we saw the scene on Tuesday, we doubted even more. *slap* How little faith we have in our child! Lesson learned. *embarassed*

Alright, so Keatkeat heard the correct instruction and did the correct thing. Just that his school mates did not do as per instructed, so it does not make him wrong; it just makes him more Outstanding. *wink*

Well done Keat! So proud of you. So after Tuesday, he continued to wear different Chinese traditional costumes to celebrate Racial Harmony Day, and his school mates did not. So he definitely stood out in the sea of blue and he loved the attention…. *giggle*

I succeeded!!!
This craze began with this post “Dare Take Up The Challenge”

I succeeded…..But that is not the end. Its the beginning of a life-long commitment that I have for my kids. Nothing that they do is going to make me burst my lungs and deafen their ears.

A stare, yes.
An angry front, yes.
A deafening silence in disagreement, yes.
A walk-away form of retaliation, yes.
A lecture in a stern voice, yes.
But no more shall I scream at them at the top of my lungs.
No more!

The 3 Days Challenge marked the turning point of the end of the fiery dragon.

I have tasted enough of what anger of a parent can do to a child when I was a kid. I shall NOT pass this down to my next generation. It has to stop with me.

Letting Anger get in the way of effective parenting is so easy. I must not let anger grow bigger than me. Anger can become uncontrollable when its not handled well. Its a scary monster when that happens….

I am not trying to be super human, I am just acknowledging that one’s mind is BIGGER than anger and not the other way round. *wink*

Have a super parenting day, Mommies! *smile*

It was smooth as silk on Day 2 (yesterday).
It was easier to speak softer instead of yelling.
It was easier to breath deep instead of feeling out of breath.
No near explosion like Day 1.

so its almost 12noon now.
Another half day to go…..
I must make it!
And when I can…
I know Day 4, Day 5…..Day 100 would get better and better….

Way to go girl! *Grin*