Paying Respect
Child April 19th, 2009Today is the 2nd time the kids participated in ‘Qing Ming’, a time to remember those who have gone, a time to burn paper money and offer incense at the place where their great-grandparent’s ashes lay.
This time was much better than the first, not as crowded, cos the one month festive is almost over. The highlights of this year’s visit:-
- Binbin was caught stroking every urn that was within his reach. “No, no, no, Cannot.” exclaimed my MIL. Immediately she helped my 4 year old to apologise to the spirits “Sorry, he is young and ignorant, I apologise if he had disturbed you.”
- Keatkeat was so excited to see a paper space wagon which one family bought for the deceased. He was so eager to have a closer look, he stood so near, he looked like one of their family member. *laugh* “Mommy, who will drive the car? He has driving license?” *laugh* “Maybe. You might want to ask them yourself?” So far this is the best way for me to answer questions that I errrrmmm… prefer not to go into too much detail for their age.
- My eldest niece was more unwilling this year than last. She couldn’t stand the smoke from the incense and the heat which was very much supported by the Sun as well.
- Children everywhere were complaining, “Can we go yet? Very hot! Why are we still here? Can we stop doing this already?”
Though I do not hold an incense nor do I support whatever that goes on during such times, I still respect the devotion the family has towards those who have passed on.
However with the response from the new generation, I have a feeling that such traditions will soon die off…..



April 20th, 2009 at 7:57 am
I haaven’t brought the kids to visit any graves during All Souls day but we have brought them to see their great grandfather’s niche in the church’s basement. I think it will take time and maturity for them to understand the meanings behind such traditions.
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April 20th, 2009 at 9:11 am
I agree with your last sentence … at my generation, it has already died off.
April 20th, 2009 at 12:05 pm
I think my mom will be the last generation to continue this offering…after that..i am not sure who will carry on with it. I for sure know nothing about qing ming..:(
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April 20th, 2009 at 4:07 pm
When I was single, I used to go with my mom and do this traditional
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April 20th, 2009 at 4:16 pm
really great read
April 20th, 2009 at 6:39 pm
i do not mind sao-mu if the weather isnt too hot. i hate the feeling of the grass brushing against my legs and the hot sun and the queue. otherwise, i think this tradition shd be passed down. not so much of the religious part but really to teach the young to remember our ancestors, our roots and the filial piety.
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April 20th, 2009 at 7:40 pm
hello how are you???
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April 20th, 2009 at 8:24 pm
melds,
I’m enjoying the ‘roller coaster’ of my life… *wink*
April 21st, 2009 at 8:31 am
I always enjoyed seeing this tradition carried out in Taiwan. Can I ask why you don’t favour it?
April 21st, 2009 at 8:39 am
Yes…I think it will die down soon too….what more the next generatino seem to be migrating more and more!
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April 21st, 2009 at 9:36 am
Erin,
I’m perfectly fine with being there and explaining why there are these practices to my kids.
But because of my beliefs, I do not ‘participate’; as in holding the incense, burning of the paper money or offering food.
Its something that my in-laws accepted way before I was married into their family….
They don’t really care if I do or don’t, so long as their grandkids do it….
Beliefs are very personal, so I’m not influencing my kids, they do participate like everyone else, I’ll let them decide for themselves….
April 22nd, 2009 at 9:12 pm
its good he takes an interest. i know how you feel with it always being at the wrong times!
April 23rd, 2009 at 9:02 am
there’s still people believing..so i doubt it will die off so fast..probably simplified though.