All About Your Child

Thank you everyone for your consoling and encouraging words. I wanted to answer some of your comments in the comment boxes itself, but I’ve got a feeling, you probably won’t go back to the comment boxes to check my replies and there were alot of stuff I would like to take this opportunity to clarify too….

Because of the unpredictable weather, my elder one (the weaker boy) sneezes and coughs much more at night. Just like last night, he coughed till he vomits again. But it was brief and so it was settled fast.

Shemah’s hubby swear by his prevent-night-tantrums ritual (see her comments). Though I am a Believer of Christ, I am still a very superstitous person. To me, there is no harm trying things that doesn’t cause anyone to get hurt, instead it may just provide a solution to the problem. So when I hear such things, I do try! Guess what? I DID BATHE my little Binbin with ‘Hong Hua’ leaves (see the post ‘It’s Challenging-part 2‘) before he slept perfectly well for 2 nights now.

As I was once able to see the ‘unclean’ I know ‘they‘ can be quite disturbing at times and my friend, Candy, who still sees them told me that this ‘power’ can be hereditary. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for that. But dear friends, I am free from the ‘harassments’ already ever since I accepted Jesus Christ into my life. So IF Binbin really has it, I know there is a way to stop this.

Yes, he’s feet have not stepped into a Church before, ‘cos my MIL and FIL is strongly against it and they have warned me that if I ever try it, they would be ready with their armour and weapons to wage a war against me. But the time will come…Binbin and Keatkeat WILL be stepping into Church without pressure….

In Shemah’s comments, she mentioned about some parents having angel-patience too. I’ve been to other blogs where the parents say how well they handled certain kiddy situations that sounded so much like a direct copy from the parenting manual and that sounded just so non-human.

I’m sorry if I’m going to say something that doesn’t seem pleasant- I believe everyone should blog what’s true and what’s really from the heart. But there are people out there who blog-to-impress and when I realized it, it’s off my Google Reader list. I understand that different people blog for different reasons but whatever the reason is, shouldn’t it be truthful?

I blog what really happened, what really went through my mind, what I really felt at that moment. If I don’t feel like saying it, I’ll just SHUT UP!, instead of (lying) blogging what other’s would go “Wow” over. I love to have people who like THE REAL ME to come over to this tiny space of mine and not purposely attract traffic here for the purpose of popularity, though it will definitely boost my income with page-per-impression.

Some of you know that I rejected the tag on “A Tribute To Mom and Dad”. As much as I’m crazy over tags, I refused to do this tag, ‘cos I have nothing (good) to say about them. They are good (as a human) in certain ways, but as parents, they failed badly towards me. Did they support me? No! Did they console me when I was sad (oh how could they, when they are the cause of the hurt)? No! Oh well, ok, my mom gave birth to me and my dad housed me, that’s probably what made them good parents, does that count? I don’t hate them anymore, just that I REFUSED TO write something that doesn’t come from my heart.

Many do not understand the magic behind fengshui, many thinks that it’s a non-Christian-like behaviour, but did you know that many churches are built upon the advice from Fengshui Masters? Anyway, I’m not here to argue anything, it’s just my belief. And as for Lynn’s comments, active animals (like your horses) and active items (like waterfall) should never be placed in the bedroom, ‘cos it will cause troubled minds and restless souls, hence should never be placed in a place where everyone needs to rest and have a peace of mind.

Thank you everyone for loving my boys so much…yes Binbin slept well for 2 nights and I hope he continues for as long as forever and as for Keatkeat, it’s going to be a long term battle between his sensitive nose and his Bronchitis, which comes on and off….*phew* at least there are days where he does have good rest…

(This is a continuation from the previous post. I strongly suggest that you read the previous one before going on to this…or else, you might be going “Huh?”, “How come?” , “What was that?”, “Why” as you read along) So please go ahead and read the previous post first….

The old folks say, “Its because he (Binbin) is a ‘2-eyed’ (on the top of his head) kid. ‘2-eyed’ kids are ALWAYS a difficult child.”

The superstitious say, “He could have been disturbed by the ‘unclean‘, hence he doesn’t rest well for so many days, afterall we ARE 10 days into the one month long Hungry Ghost Festival. Go wash him with ‘hong hua’ leaves and he will be fine.”

The logicalist say, “He may have over-played during the day or just before he sleeps, that’s why he can’t rest well.” (Hey it was many days ok! Not just one day, so I disagree with this)

Whatever it is. This HAD TO STOP. After what happened on the previous night. This morning at 1am, he started yelling again while I was blog hopping to finish off my 300+ posts-yet-to-be-read…

Remember my hint? I wasn’t asleep, so I wasn’t pissed. I was ready to play the waiting game. My mind was all set and geared up to the challenge.

I stepped away from my PC and walked towards the bedroom, he was jumping up and down on my bed with his knees bent. I asked him, “Are you ok? What happened?”

“Ahhhhhh…….MMaaaaaMMeeeee, I Want You!” he yelled in response.

“OK, I’m here. Come, Mommy hug you.” As I moved towards him, he backed off and hit his back against the wall and started banging himself against it.

It became my turn to back-off, till it was 1 meter away from him, that’s when he stopped the banging but still in the tantrum condition.

I kept quiet. I waited. I waited for him to speak first. I waited for him to tell me what he was truly unhappy about. He knows me well. He knows I am waiting for the answer.

After 2-3mins, he stopped moving. He stopped yelling. He stared blankly on my crumpled bedsheet. After another 2-3mins, he fell asleep.

I walked away, back to my PC. Managed to type but another 5 alphabets and it started again! He was banging and screaming.

“Yes Binbin? What do you want? Milk?” I begged for an answer, but completely at peace mentally, ‘cos I wasn’t sleepy.

“Yaaaeeeeeesssssss!” answered unwillingly and in an absolute angry tone, as if he felt he have lost in the Mastermind game whereby I read his thoughts so well.

Allan prepared his milk, but half the usual quantity, fearing that he may wet the bed at night if he fell asleep again while sucking his bottle.

Upon seeing his milk bottle, he yelled and started another tantrum which have stopped some seconds ago, “Don’t want! I don’t want! Waaaaaahhhhhh!”

I put it aside, without a word and again, he sat there motionless for minutes and dozed off in a sitting position with his legs bent backwards. So I went to my PC again, this time I managed to get another sentence on the comment box and there goes my 3 year old again at the top of his voice, whining away in attempt to wake all my neighbours.

I took the milk and put it in front of his face without saying a word. He backed off again. This time he stuffed his little bum into the gap between my bed and the wall. At that corner, he continued to cry, to whine, but much longer this time, as if to fight his tireness in order not to doze off again, but he failed. He slept with his bum stuck in that tiny gap between the bed and the wall.

Again I walked away, but this time, before I was even seated, he screamed, “I WANT MORE MILK MILK!”

OH! So that’s what he wanted. So I went to prepare a NEW bottle of milk, ‘cos the previous one prepared by the dad was way too cold for consumption already.

I put it in front of his face. He took it. Yeah! I thought. But I celebrated too early, the next moment, he threw it on the mattress and wet his own bed when the milk spilled out. I glared at him. Still keeping my mouth closed. I’m not gonna shout, not gonna yell and definitely not gonna do what I did yesterday.

Allan knew it was NOT a normal tantrum, he got up and took charged, he wanted me to stop the waiting game, he wanted to do the hard way, but gently. He carried the struggling kid to the kitchen. As Binbin kicked and beat his dad, the man was determined to get the unfamiliar kid out of the bedroom in fear of waking up the elder one who was happily talking in his sleep.

Binbin grew tired of struggling, ‘cos he knows in term of strength, he was bound to lose to his dad. He rested his tired body completely on the chest of his dad. Allan started to ask questions, “Binbin, we want to help you feel better. But if you don’t tell us, we can’t help you.”

“I DON’T WANT YOU!!! GO AWAY!! i WANT MOMMY!!!” screamed my boy.

But Allan know his little boy too well, he knew that it was a trick, he just want to fly out of his clutches. Allan refused to let go even though Binbin was kicking and beating even harder than before on the big-walking-punching-bag.

Allan suggested that I should switched on the Playhouse Disney channel for him, he thinks that that may calm him down. I obeyed. He carried the child to the living room from the kitchen and rested him on the sofa.

He quietened down and demanded angrily, “I WANT MY BABY BOLSTER AND MY CUTE LITTLE BABY!”

I did as commanded by my little sergeant. He lied down on the sofa, hugging his bolster and his little bear, sucking his milk with his eyes glued on the TV. I NEVER ALLOW THAT!!! Allan knew I was unhappy but he gave me the eye-signal, “just for this time, ok? just this one time…”

Allan was extremely exhausted, it was 3am in the morning, he went to bed and snored in seconds. I went back to my PC and typed yesterday’s post. When I was through, I heard the sound of the TV being switched off. Little foot steps were approaching me and when I turned my head, the little rascal was smiling at me, “Mommy, can you switch off the PC, I need to sleep already.”

That was the sweetest sentence ever for the entire day! He slept in less than 5mins, but I was wide awake still. I continued my blog hopping and at 4.30am, it was Keatkeat’s turn, he was up sneezing, mucus were all over his mattress cover and pillow case, my poor Allan was woken again!

We cleared up the mess but Keatkeat wouldn’t stop sneezing. I gave him the runny nose medicine and stayed beside him till he was back in dreamland again. By then at 5.30am, I was exhausted, that’s when I switched off my PC and went off to bed…

Its 9.45pm now, almost time for bed for the kids. My fingers and toes are crossed real tight. Will today be the 3rd day in a row, to have another crazy night with my 3 year old? *sigh* Will you keep your fingers and toes crossed for me too?