All About Your Child

Binbin didn’t sleep till 1am last night. Nope, no tantrums, nothing out of the ordinary. He was just too excited and happy yesterday because everything went smoothly for him the whole day, that was the caused of his insomia.

He did so well for his very first attempt on ‘Bowling Buddies’ on my Facebook, got a couple of spares. His face was glowing with pride as he slowly fell asleep. Come to think of it, my Facebook games are played by everyone else except me, the owner of the account…Allan loved the games and was so addicted to it, which got the kids involved in it too and now Keatkeat is so good in the ‘Bowling Buddies’ that my sis opened a Facebook account just for him a few months ago….

When Binbin was truly in dreamland, my tummy was growling so loud I couldn’t ignore. So I got up, wanted to eat some Cheese Rings to shut my tummy up, but it went on with its protest till I had my bowl of instant noodles.

So Allan and I watched one of his favourite show ‘Dirty Jobs’ on Discovery Channel as I gobbled down that bowl of hot noodle soup. When that was done, I was too full to sleep (I do have a problem, don’t I…hmmmm…).

We kept switching channels till we saw a (repeat telecast) local Mandarin comedy variety program called ‘Conscience Found’ (in English).

The topic was on parenting. They acted out how parents through common practises slowly but surely spoiled their child, unknowingly. When they finally realised it, it was too late to turn back the clock…the show ended with this sentence…

(translated in English)
Kids are adorable,
but there are moments when they could be a pain in the ass too.
If we are too lenient towards them,
the consequence may turn out to be lamentable.

What are your thoughts about the above? I’m on the brink of breaking my angel-like patience with my 4-year-old Keatkeat already. Yes, I’ve mentioned before the characteristics of a 4-year-old. I thought I was prepared for it. Afterall, I’ve taught 4-years-old before and that was a whole bunch of them when I was in Child Care.

But then I realised that IT WAS DIFFERENT when it comes to your own kids, its just NOT THE SAME….you witness the change from a little angel to a little ‘devil’, someone who used to listen and goes with your whims and fancies has changed into someone who is all out to irritate you and when your confront him:

Me: “Keatkeat, why did you do this?”

Keatkeat: *Shrugged his shoulders*

Me: “Do you know by doing this, you will irritate me?”

Keatkeat: “Yes.”

Me: “Then why did you still do it?!”

Keatkeat: *Giggled* “I don’t know.”

Me: “You think it’s funny to this or it’s funny to irritate me?”

Keatkeat: *Giggled more*

(Then the man of the house would step in)

Allan: “Don’t need to talk to him, he never learns, let him feel physical pain, that’s how he will learn.”

Me: “Keatkeat, I don’t like to scold you and I don’t want to beat you like Papa, can you please (beggingly) stop all these nonsense?”

Keatkeat: “Sorry Mommy.”

Just when you have forgotten about the issue, he did it again in another way!!!! *Urgghhhhh* Then before I can open my mouth, Allan whacked him….you think that solved the problem? NO!!!!! ‘cos when the pain on the skin is long gone, Keatkeat is up to his mischief AGAIN! That’s how difficult a 4-year-old can be!!!!

So to me, those words of advice I saw at the end of the programme set me thinking….its not only about your parenting style its about changing your parenting style to suit the changing development stages of your child as he goes through self-exploration and changes in his personality before he is moulded and ‘take-shape’ permanently as a grown-up – that’s the challenging part!

A day that’s is so auspicious to the Chinese, triple 8. Chinese believes that 8 is a representation of prosperity ‘cos it sounded very much like ‘FA’ (prosper), maybe that’s why Singapore is giving 8 million for the winner of the TOTO draw…..

Keatkeat was doing his usual worksheet (given by me) and when he wrote down the date 08.08.08, even he says, “Wah! Today’s date is so nice!”.

On this auspicious day, my little Keatkeat is extra happy and willing to wake up to go to school for an hour of fun, 8.30am-9.30am. Today, there is not proper curriculum, they are pre-celebrating National Day today.

Every kid was dress in Red Top and White Bottom, just like the Singapore Flag. It was a pretty sight, too bad I forgot to bring the camera down.

Look at that smile on his face and you can tell that he really enjoyed that one hour. Came home, waving his mini-Singapore Flag and the Souvenir – an A5 size pocket folder, “Mommy, I give you this folder to keep your things ok?” *smile*

Well, that’s how my boy gets rid of things that he doesn’t want. *Laugh* I am his ‘walking dustbin’.

Me: “So what did you do in school today?”

Keatkeat: “Sing songs”

Me: “Just sing songs? Did you get to eat anything?”

Keatkeat: “Nope-peli-nope!”

Me: “So what songs did you sing?”

Keatkeat: “S-I-N-G-A-P-O-R-E ….ohhhhhhh…..SINGAPORE! (That’s the Singapore Cheer), Chan Mali Chan….Oi Oi (that’s the Famous Malay song every Singaporean (irregardless of race) would sing on happy occasion), Mari Kita ya…..(the national athem) and the One People One Nation song…..(and he started singing away)”

Me: “So did you enjoy yourself?”

Keatkeat: “Yes-sy!”

On this special day, here’s wishing all of you a Happy and Prosperity Year and Years ahead!!! Feel alittle like Chinese New Year. *laugh*