All About Your Child

My eldest niece celebrated her ‘chinese’ birthday today.

For the sake of the non-chinese readers…let me do some explaination…we chinese have a chinese lunar calendar, the dates are very different from the english calendar….you can be born on the 11th November 2007, but your chinese lunar birth date is 2nd October 2007.

So for us chinese….we can choose to celebrate our birthday twice a year *wink*.

Her english birthday was on 28th October 2007, but poor girl, she was taking her last examination paper on 29th October, so she had to study for it….

Anyway, Happy 7th Birthday Cheng Han!

Love and hugs…..

We have covered:

1. Establish firm and clear rules
2. Give clear and calm instructions
3. Be consistent

What happens when you have establish firm and clear rules, gave clear and calm instructions and your child still continues to do what he wants?

4) Back up instructions with logical consequences

If your child does not follow your request, choose a consequences that fits the situation.

“If you are arguing over the TV – it will be switched off for 10 minutes.”

Remember, be consistent and keep to the conditions. If the behaviour continues, you must tell your child what he is doing is wrong.

“You are still arguing and shouting – then the TV will be switched off for 1 hour (… the rest of the afternoon…).”

Other ways to discipline are…

• take away a small amount of the child’s pocket money
• ground your child for a short period
• take away a favourite possession such as a game or a bike for a short time

Choose a method that suits your family and the situation so that you will have the best chance of success.