It took 7months – the finale
Child, Health, Parenting November 1st, 2008Though I can’t force, I do urge you to read my previous 2 posts ~ The Beginning and The Progress , before you get to this one, or else you may not fully FEEL the joy in my heart as I write this final post about the 7-long-months of struggle with Keatkeat and with myself.
Its took 7 months, yes it was that long. My sis asked me few months back, why didn’t I blog about the struggle I went through every morning? I shouted at Keatkeat so loud that my volume works better than my sis snoozing alarms, to wake her up for work. It was not just a physical, mental and emotional torture for Keatkeat as he tried to win this battle with the HELP from his almost-going-mad-mommy, it was stressful for the WHOLE FAMILY too.
Now it can happen any moment. The sudden change of temperature, passing by a construction site, smelling his baby-bolster or even when he is half-way chewing his pork chop rice and “Haahhh…Cheee”. I bet you can imagine the mess spread out 2 feets in front of him; the chewed-up rice will be on this hands and the table and some back to where it began with (that is back to the bowl of ‘fresh’ rice). Will you let him eat that bowl of rice then?!!! With the extra flavoring of Mucus and Saliva and Half-chewed-up food bits?!!! We didn’t! We couldn’t! Its TOO GROSS! Can you imagine how much FOOD we have wasted?!! *Ashamed*
I didn’t want to complain at the beginning of every blog post for those 7 months, it would be awful! I wanted this story to wrap up nicely. To have the beginning and hopefully a nice ending (solution). And The time has come. Its been a month since I last yelled at Keatkeat. *Hands Waving in the Air ~ Yeah!* He is able to react faster than his nose for a month now. I think its time to REJOICE. My boy had WON the battle. Not that his sneezing has stopped, but that he has trained his mind to tackle the problem like an adult, in full control. *Yeah*
If he is woken because of ‘IT’ in the middle of night, though he whines, he doesn’t forget to cover his Mouth and Nose and KEPT his little hand there, no matter how many times he continues to sneeze his way to the toilet. Yes, he woke us up too, but we no longer need to JUMP out of bed as if there was a bomb attack! We stay awake, lying on our pillow and listen for any SOS call, but there never had been, for a month now….*Yeah* After the minutes of washing and blowing in the toilet, the little figure in the dark just move back to his mattress and continues his sleep like nothing had happened…. *Hooray*
Months before today, I sat and thought “Could It Be? Could my poor boy be suffering because of his dad and mom? Could he have inherited his parents’ sinusitis?” High Chance, eh?! Yes, he did, with confirmation from the doctor.
Allan was a very weak boy when he was little. His immunity system was terrible ~ according to my MIL. His sinus was so bad, he was on those bitter Chinese brewed tonic for YEARS!
And Me? I was under the mercy of the cold surgical knife. My sinus was so serious when I was a teenager that I must have at least 6-8packets of tissues with me every day for school. And by the end of the day, they are all soaked through. At 16, I was diagnosed with Chronic Sinusitis. My face was bloated, I had fever and persistent sore throat for weeks.
When I went for the Head-Scan, the result was GROSS! My whole head was filled with Mucus, which made me looked as if I’ve put on weight on my Face. The sore throat was caused by the infection from the prolong-stay of the Mucus in my ENT area (Ear-Nose-Throat).
After the 2 days stay after the surgery, my doctor (who died 2 years after operating on me in a Car Crush with her husband during an anniversary trip to Australia) said I needed to be on a life-long medication in order to prevent it from happening again. And so I was on Clarytine till I was pregnant at 25. Though my gynae said it was ok to continue, I just didn’t want to. And boy, aren’t I glad I made that decision! ‘Cos since then, I’ve stopped taking it daily, except on very very terrible ‘sniff-sniff’ days. I love those medication-free days! *Yeah* I’m free!
The only thing that made me feel better, when I was at war during my teens, was bathing every morning. I sneezed lesser, it did help. And so I did it to Keatkeat too. Boy, he sure is my son! It worked for him as well as it did for his mom!
Over the past 8 months (7months of battle + 1month of victory) and NOW, these are the things we have been doing other than 1st bathing him in the morning, before anything else.
2nd Forbide Keatkeat’s favourite soft-toy, Winnie the Pooh, to sleep with him.
3rd Stop his WEIRD HABIT! Keatkeat likes to uncover part of his BABY-bolster (small photo), revealing the ‘rough-bolster-skin’.
He would slip his hand into the cover and rub his fore-arm on the ‘rough-skin’, close his eyes with full satisfaction glowing on his face and said, “Soooooo ‘Shu-Fu’ (comfortable in Mandarin)” We believe the stuffings inside the bolster may sneak out of the ‘bolster-skin’ and might cause irritation to his nose. Ok, I’ve mentioned before he has WEIRD SLEEPING HABITS back in March 2008 ~ remember? he ‘swims’ in order to sleep?!!! So I guess this bolster-rubbing-habit is ranked no. 2 then.
4th We change his mattress cover, pillow case, bolster cases (he has 2 bolsters) every 2-3days to ensure that it doesn’t collect too much dust.
5th On warmer days, we will let him wear slightly cooler clothes to bed and NOT have the fan switched on at all.
I don’t think the above measures help significantly, ‘cos he is still having the “Haahh…Cheee” moments, but at least we make an effort to help in every way we can to make my boy feel better….*Hmmm….*
The ONLY complain I have now is, I can never get the timing right every morning. ‘Cos once his sneezing starts, it can go on for 5mins or as long as 20mins. He would be stuck at the basin, blowing his nose and washing away the *Yuck*.
School starts at 8am, it takes 2mins to walk to school (that is IF he DID NOT sneeze on the way there). When I wake him up early, say 7am, he could be perfectly ok with just ‘sniff-sniff’ or sometimes ‘snort-snort’, no sneezing at all, and we would be super early for school then!
But sometimes when I allow him to sleep slightly longer, he could be in his sneezing routine at the basin for the next 20mins and we end up being late for school for half an hour! Hmmm….I guess many of you would say, its better early than late, and that’s what I had been doing. Sometimes when he does have the attacks, I’m glad I made the right choice; But when he is sneeze-free, I feel guilty for depriving him from the extra minutes of sleep….. *Sigh*
But this is no BIG issue, Really! ‘cos the worst is over already! I started the 3-Day long post with this sentence and I think by wrapping this memorial experience with Keatkeat with the same sentence is just too perfect:
Finally, after 7months, I feel relieved, at peace with my boy, at peace with myself….
November 2nd, 2008 at 12:24 am
yeah! yeah!
Since 10pm, I was waiting patiently for your victory post you know! :)
I feel your joy and after 7 long months, Keat has finally known how to tackle his issue. He has grown up, hasnt he? :)
And thanks for sharing Angeline because my little 3yo boy has sinus too and I am prepared for any war … as he has a little struggle in the middle of the night now.
He would rub his nose vigrously as if he wants to pluck that awful irritated nose out! so we are crossing our fingers every night that he will have a peaceful sleep.
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November 2nd, 2008 at 2:56 am
Poor little guy! and poor you! Congrats on your celebration day!!
I was editing my blog when you came by, I think you can read the words now, but thanks for letting me know. I really appreciate it!!
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November 2nd, 2008 at 10:31 am
Glad that things had worked out better for you, Angeline. It seems rather common for kids to have sinus problems nowadays -my friend’s son also has this problem, but I think she still keeps the stuffed toys in his room. 2 out of 4 of my kids have this problem too. One of them also sneezes alot in the morning while the other doesn’t. But both of them have lots of mucus in the nose quite often – yah, use up a lot of tissue paper and water. Have seen both Chinese doc and western doc. Gave up on western doc when they eventually said (after spending hundreds of $ on fees and medicine like nasal spray, tests from many, many visits at KKH’s ENT specialist)last resort was surgery. I don’t want my baby to go under the knife! The kids can decide to do that if they want to when they are adults. Gave up on Chinese doc after more than a year of taking liquid medicine and pills – treatment is not a cure.
Now we live with the runny nose and try to have less dust. But on really, really bad days, I give them a little yellow tablet (anti-histamine) to help them have a better quality of life that day.
November 2nd, 2008 at 4:23 pm
I’m so glad to hear that :-)
I know I may not be the right person to offer this advice but have a read and see if it helps. I used to sniff sniff a lot too (but more from allergy to dust). Doctors couldn’t help coz it was allergy. So my mum somehow, dunno why, forced me to drink lots of water whenever I have sneeze attack. I said force coz she made me drank 3-4 full glasses of plain water! I spent a lot of time in the toilet after that but it did stop the sneezes… kinda like it washes away the mucus :-)
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November 2nd, 2008 at 5:02 pm
congratulations on your victory. the sinus problem sound really bad and poor boy. I hope it is not something too serious. u think the diet affects? like less chicken, more fruits and vege?
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November 2nd, 2008 at 8:42 pm
It sure seems that although it’s snot you’re dealing with, it’s-not anything easy. Quite the ordeal. I’m wondering if he’s got some serious allergies contributing to this situation too. Perhaps you do too and haven’t been totally diagnosed. Just wondering…
So glad he’s better.
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November 2nd, 2008 at 9:24 pm
Congrats on your victory. My 4-yr old also has sinus and has been waking up every night crying. He got it from his dad, who had to have surgery as a teenager too. And I’ve been at my wits ends, though Eucalyptus Oil has lessen the symptoms. Glad to know there could be better days ahead.
November 2nd, 2008 at 11:40 pm
Well Done KeatKeat! Hopefully you will be able to find a solution to his sinus problem soon…
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November 3rd, 2008 at 12:19 am
Keat keat only needs the toy when he sleeps ar? wat about going out ?
So how’s everything now?
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November 3rd, 2008 at 1:25 am
Cendrine,
yes, he ONLY wants it during sleeping time because his bro has one. Its purely peer pressure. He is not so much of a soft toy fan.
Its still the same. BUT, the BIG FAT ‘BUT’ is: My Boy can Cover His Mouth BEFORE he sneezes and he can Clean himself up NICELY after every attack, without MY help and without giving me all the PROBLEMS which I’d mentioned in the first 2 posts : ‘The Beginning’ and ‘The Progress’!
He is a Conqueror! Hooray!
November 3rd, 2008 at 5:39 pm
Hi. My heart aches when I read about your ordeal with your son. I’m so glad that you are going to terms with it. I’m worry too as my wife has sinus problem and she is very sensitive to dust. I hope that Ryan will not inherit any of it. Else, it would be another nightmare for us. Have been considering installing a good air filter and purifier in the room to reduce the dust but not sure whether that will help.
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November 4th, 2008 at 12:34 am
You know… you’re really a great mom! You’re indeed a very strong woman/mom going through the struggles and the hard time taking care of your kid.
November 5th, 2008 at 11:10 am
I feel for you my dear.. I know how it feel like to be awaken in wee hour. Not that i have kid, but i too sometimes suffer the haa chee moment.( wee morning that is).Yes i too have sinus..but very mild sinus ( thank God) and hope it will stay as MILD sinus..not chronic sinus.
I can’t take it too..sneezing too much make me feel like my eye balls gonna pop out anytime soon..feeling that i hated so much!
November 5th, 2008 at 2:35 pm
So the bathing in the morning really helped part of it? That’s excellent, Angeline!
November 5th, 2008 at 5:02 pm
REJOICE!! Finally he is able to react faster than his nose…that’s a very big achievement!
Will he need to go under op to stop this sneezing like you? poor boy..must be a torture to sneeze for 20mins every day.. how about chinese doctor?
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November 5th, 2008 at 11:10 pm
Blessed mom,
*fingers crossed* I hope not. For now, its a little more manageable, maybe its because he is so ‘used’ to it that makes it seem not-such-a-big-problem anymore… we’ll stay as it is now… till there’s another change or progress…
November 5th, 2008 at 11:25 pm
I hope it continues to go well, for all of you!!!
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