I need $ to be a better Parent
Child, Parenting, Toddler September 4th, 2008That’s just sound awfully wrong!
But it seems to explain my case – what I managed to do with the little money I got from my last bazaar.
Take a look at Allan and my wardrobe.
Binbin sleeps right in-front of it every night and noon (he takes naps too)
Nothing unusual?
Let’s take a CLOSER LOOK…
We used carpet-tape to ‘secure’ the sides and the corners of the wardrobe, but can you see that the tape couldn’t really hold it together?
Can you see the piece of wood, ‘going away’ from the tape, between the wardrobe and the wall?
The interior has already gave way.
The back of the wardrobe and the base is about 5cm apart.
It has been in this condition for years now…
Allan and I often sleep with the feeling that we may be woken up in the middle of the night when the wardrobe decides to give-up-its-life and brings my little Binbin along with it to its’ grave.
Worried were we…but we did nothing…we are just to busy clearing all the interest from the debts and bills and food and pure basic living that we had postpone it till now…
Yes, go ahead and label us as bad parents. I’m not going to fight my case, ‘cos I know its a losing battle for us.
But with the little money I got from my last bazaar, I bought the new wardrobe, to prevent the worst nightmare from happening.
I could strike off another item from my if-I-have-extra-money-after-paying-the-usual-I-would-buy-this list of things.
*sigh* We are REALLY terrible parents…Thank God for keeping Binbin safe for so long under such danger….its like a time bomb, you never know WHEN the wardrobe will decide to end its life…but the nightmare is over now…finally!
September 5th, 2008 at 1:55 am
u r a great mum, to manage the household well with a tight budget. thank goodness u all got a new wardrobe. btw y is your boy sleeping on the floor?
4malmals last blog post..My Summer Holiday (Window Movie Maker)
September 5th, 2008 at 2:02 am
You are not a bad parent…..having a family and maintaining a household is expensive…we do the best we can…it’s not that you didn’t know you needed a new wardrobe that you knew…you didn’t have the finances to afford a new one at the time…but when you got the finances you got a new wardrobe…that is a good parent…..recognizing change is needed and making it happen when you can…..
SmalltownRNs last blog post..Health care and ethics……
September 5th, 2008 at 6:03 am
I think you are a wonderful mother. We all face situations that like before. He has a beautiful new dresser now.
Tammys last blog post..I doFollow Too
September 5th, 2008 at 7:49 am
4MalMal,
because my room is too small for another bed(s) for my 2 boys.
We are DEFINITELY ‘working’ towards a new and bigger house. You can never imagine how much I wish to leave these 4 walls which have so much awful memories hidden in them….
Thanks for your concern.
September 5th, 2008 at 11:43 am
Exactly what SmalltownRN said. You did the best you could–and now you can breathe a little easier.
Alisons last blog post..
September 5th, 2008 at 1:07 pm
Don’t be so hard on yourself, my dear. Nothing happened. And you worked hard for the new dresser. You are a great mom!
And a wonderful friend. Thank you for listening to my radio show. And saying such lovely things.
JCKs last blog post..Chatty Snippets from the 6 hour road trip home
September 5th, 2008 at 4:05 pm
don’t feel that way..nobody is gonna fault you on that..we all understand $ don’t come easy..And God had keep a watchful eye on Binbin all these while to keep him safe..
but hey, you must have did pretty well from the last bazaar :P
blessed mums last blog post..Kids Kampung
September 5th, 2008 at 4:09 pm
hmm..? wonder what happen to my comments…
just want to let you know that nobody can fault you on this..and God had been good in keeping a watchful eyes on binbin..:)
seems like you did pretty well for the last bazaar..:P
blessed mums last blog post..Kids Kampung
September 5th, 2008 at 4:28 pm
angeline..speak this to God..He will answer your pray in someway or another or may just keep giving the protection for you.
physiomoms last blog post..Attention all sanitary pad users
September 5th, 2008 at 5:43 pm
Hey Angel..U are a wonderfull mother..no doubt about it!!!!
Keep it up..Finally u got sufficient funds for the new warrdrobe..Good job!! U will definitely move to a new bigger house soon..Wish u Luck n Goodwill!!! (((Huggss)))
September 5th, 2008 at 7:22 pm
Blessed Mum,
don’t worry about the comments…I have no idea why your comments keep getting into the ‘moderation’ box….
I’ll still receive it, just that I need to ‘approve’ it…
but the funny thing is I’ve APPROVED you ever since you first landed here…
so must be some ‘funny joke’ going around here…
just to let you know…don’t worry…I do get your comments eventually…just that you aren’t able to see it posted up on the spot…so sorry
September 5th, 2008 at 9:08 pm
Shut up!!!You know you’re a good mom!Other wise your kids wouldn’t be so happy with you!
Ohh!Girl, we have a new subject to talk about on line: Shark fins!…This will be our first disagreement!LOL!
*muack*
;)
Sandras last blog post..Thursday Thirteen– 7th Edition
September 7th, 2008 at 11:03 am
in my eyes, you’re already a perfect mum…i do understand the hardship of life (i do not come from a well to do family)…but with the love, support and guidance from my parents, i think i did quite ok now…so it is NOT always the money that’s the root of the problems, sometimes being happy and contented is the key.
every parents want the BEST for their kids, but some forgot the key to success is not MONEY but simply ATTITUDE! it helps if we have lots of money, but if his/her attitude sucks, then it’s the WORST scenario!
September 8th, 2008 at 8:29 am
I don’t think you are a bad mom. Far from it! Furniture being unsafe is always something to take care of. Glad you guys were able to. Whew.
Erins last blog post..SERENDIPITY
September 8th, 2008 at 11:22 am
You managed to get a useful wardrobe with the tight budget. You are doing good :)
Janices last blog post..Ferris Wheel at home?
September 8th, 2008 at 4:31 pm
Oh Angeline… you’re not a bad parent! The label bad parent are reserved for those who do not feed, care, keep them safe and most of all do not love their child.
With the living standards nowadays, all we parents can hope for is to do the best we can and make it work with what little that we have and hope that our kids will learn a great deal from us when they grow up. :)
Shemahs last blog post..There’s a Snake in the house!!!
September 8th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
your not a bad momma. you can only do what you can. hey we would all like to be rich and have everything we need, but we live in the real world, and we are real moms. dont worry yourself. at least its sorted now x
Tinas last blog post..EARN MONEY FROM LINKS
September 9th, 2008 at 12:42 pm
Don’t think that way…Both of you are doing your best to be a good parents.
LZmommys last blog post..Brillante Weblog Premio 2008