Nearly lost him again
Child, Parenting June 17th, 2008
Yesterday, we went for a swim with my auntie (the one who took care of me since I was a baby) and my most respected cousin, Corina, together with Matin and his cousin who just turned one last month.
Auntie didn’t swim, only Allan, Corina, myself and the 4 kids swam. We thought the ratio of 3:4 would be good enough but accident still happened.
As I recalled….yesterday was a terribly unlucky day. We went to Chao Chu Kang Swimming Complex, full of excitement with all the floats, water balls, water guns and all the yummies to fill our stomach when we get hungry.
But It Is Closed On Every Monday!!! Damn! So the thought of going on the slides and enjoying the massage from the wavy pool was smashed!
We had no choice but went to the normal swimming complex at Clementi.
We had splashing great fun, playing the crocodile and shark chasing, obviously, Allan was the croc and I was the shark while Corina was the kids’ angel, fighting against us.
Just when we were so into the game, 3 kids about age 7 came over and wanted to play with us, we didn’t want to because they were quite rough, but they just kept “interrupting” our fun. Just then, Allan shouted at me from behind, “Why aren’t you taking care of Binbin?!”
When I turned my head, little Binbin was choking and looking pale. Allan told me that his float wasn’t with him and he was struggling to swim (in a swimming position), kicking and flapping his arms like crazy but with HIS HEAD UNDER THE WATER!
We kept slapping his back till he vomited lots of pool-water and the vegetable he ate for lunch (I guess we over-slapped) before his face finally got the reddish color back.
As some of you know, I nearly lost him before which almost took the last breathe out of me, so I am always extra careful towards him. Till now, I still get the shivers, when I recall what happened 1 year ago on Allan’s birthday.
Yet my negligent nearly cost me to lose my 3 year old again….damn me!
June 17th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
dont blame urself, just be extra careful next time.
I alws prefer 1 to 1 while in the pool, just to play safe.
June 17th, 2008 at 4:27 pm
Really scary, we have to be extra mindful when bringing little kids out for play in the water :)
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June 17th, 2008 at 5:02 pm
dont feel too bad over it…as parents, we are always protective towards our kids (who doesnt?) but still accidents can happened!
but prevention is better than cure, so if we could avoid it, then it’s the BEST!
do not be afraid to bring them to the pool again, ok?
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June 17th, 2008 at 5:56 pm
Remind me of a similiar incident which happened to my girl when she was 3…she was sitting by the pool looking at her aunt while daddy was washing his car and looking..next thing he saw is her waving frantically in the pool with head submerge…it really gave her daddy a big scare…
hope my above incident offer some comfort to you…
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June 17th, 2008 at 10:04 pm
????????Most imptly, glad to read that Bin2 was ok despite being shaken up quite a bit, I’m sure.
Not very sure about your self-blame over this incident, though. You insist that it was YOUR negligience, but it had been a joint assessment (presumably, from reading your post) between the 3 adults present, that a 3:4 ratio was good enough, hadn’t it? I don’t see why taking care of Bin2 should become a responsibility solely borne by you and you alone.
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June 17th, 2008 at 10:06 pm
ah, chinese characters not supported, i see.
what i wanted to convey at the beginning of the post above was “jing yi shi, zhang yi zhi” i.e. “every incidents provides us with a valuable learning opportunity”.
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June 17th, 2008 at 10:34 pm
wow – that’s scary.
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June 17th, 2008 at 10:44 pm
Clement,
that’s truly a problem of mine. I have a self-blaming spirit in me, don’t know when did that creep into my small body, but I always blame myself when things go wrong. *sigh*
June 17th, 2008 at 11:00 pm
A similar thing happened to my twin sister when my dad took us swimming when we were little. My dad was supposed to catch my sister going down the waterslide but he turned around to talk to someone and she she went right to the bottom of the pool. A boy in his early teens swam to the bottom to get her.
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June 18th, 2008 at 12:15 am
Never vigilent enough…never…that’s me and my brood. Something can always happen. We just have to try our best. I believe you are. That’s just the nature of ‘accident.’ Glad he’s ok though.
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June 18th, 2008 at 1:08 am
We are always way to hard on ourselves as prents. Don’t blame your self. I am glad bin bin’s Okay and so are you. Remeber that you are doing the best job that you do as a parent and always be proud of your self. I also had quite a blue monday yesterday with a lot not going my way either, so i can empathize with you.
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June 18th, 2008 at 2:20 am
Thanks for the reminder about how fast it can happen. I’m glad your little one is okay.
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June 18th, 2008 at 3:27 am
Scary, scary, scary!!!! You may have read my post but Hunter fell in the lake Sunday, luckily he had on his life vest so he just popped right up!
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June 18th, 2008 at 4:58 am
OMG!Girl,your boy surely has an angel beside him!And so do you!I would freak out!I’m not a very religious type of person, but I do believe in God and in angels…
Someone is looking out for him.
XOXO
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June 18th, 2008 at 6:49 am
I do not take my eyes off my granddaughter when she is in the pool. Thank you for sharing your story because that reminds me that it is CRUCIAL. (Angeline, my granddaughter calls me Nana because that is the name for grandma. Mummy would be mommy. I am her grandmother.
June 18th, 2008 at 1:16 pm
Glad that Binbin is ok.. This incident reminds me of a similar case that happen to L too. Till today, she still remembers it.
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June 19th, 2008 at 9:34 am
Happy that BB is ok now..U got me scareddddd…i shd say…
But i can feel the mothers’s feel u talking abt u’r negligence (which i believe may not b the case ..considering u..)..I know it always hurts us more n v take the whole responsibility within oursleves as a mom..I know how it hurts…
V had lost Yuvan for 4-5 mts..(he was close to 2 then)when my door was accidentaly open with frens around..Yuvan pressed the lift button n went to 14th flr(me at 12)…i realised he is not in within a minute..n i was shouting yuvan yuvan,,i could hear him cry…my husband n frens rushed down..one fren up..Finally our chinese family caught him in 14 th flr where they were waiting to get in the lift..n peeped in from 14th flr to ask me is it him i was lookign for?? those moments were terrible!!!!
i know..i blamed myself that day not to double chk whether the door was locked (as the grill is always locked)….
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June 19th, 2008 at 11:36 am
Glad to know that Bin is okay…
I believe many mothers out there would understand the anxiousness you must be feeling when you are slapping Bin’s back and the guilt after.
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