My Son was Rejected
Child, Health, Parenting, Preschool July 18th, 2008(I want to thank all of you for your kind words and encouragements to my Heavy Heart yesterday, you guys are really a wonderful bunch! May your life be filled with blessings!)
I had been wondering all along, when, just when will Keatkeat’s teacher Mdm Normah snap, how long can I stretched her ‘rubber-band’ of keeping an-eye-closed about Keatkeat’s tongue. ‘cos she was doubtful over my explanation all along….but still she kept her eyes closed and let Keatkeat get into class…
Ever since the hand-foot-mouth disease started 4 months back, the school have been doing regular check-ups BEFORE the kids are allowed to step into the class.
Just last week, a student was down with the illness after the school had a clean record for 5 full weeks. Hence the check-ups were more thorough than before, first they would (prefer the parents to measure the kids’ temperature and record down on the given notebook before the come to school) check the temperature, then the palm of the hands to look out for blisters and finally shine a torchlight into the kids’ mouth to spot ulcers.
You see, my dear Keatkeat have a conditioned since he was a baby – whenever his water intake is too little, he would have ulcers on his tongue. I HAVE mentioned this to Mdm Normah almost every time she spots an ulcer or two in my 4-year-old’s mouth.
But today she was firm, very firm. She spotted 3 ulcers on Keatkeat’s tongue (*Humph* must be the Fried Spring Chicken he ate for dinner last night). She INSISTs that I bring Keatkeat home.
Let me say this first before anything else, I CAN UNDERSTAND, I DO. Even when I was a Child Care Centre teacher, I would not risk the other students’ health, just to please one eager-to-get-his-butt-in-the-class kid, who shows such signs of danger.
But as me, a HUMAN, a Mommy, I can’t stop having thoughts like:
“Damn! It was so difficult to get my little boy out of his bed and yet he is not accepted.”
“Damn! I could have slept for another hour before I head down to my 1-day bazaar later on. Pacifying one kid is easy while setting up the stall, but keeping 2 kids entertained and preventing them from quarrelling / fighting while setting up the stall is *Urrrrgghhh*””
What makes me go really *Urggghhhhh* were the parents. Seriously, may I ask ALL Parents reading this, “Do you stay at the door of the school and look at your kids after they are in the class and STAY there till the teacher closes all windows and door?!”
I do, BUT ONLY FOR THE FIRST WEEK when my kid is in school FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME IN HIS LIFE. But I won’t do that when he is already in school for almost 2 years now! But there are still sooooooooo mannnnny parents who do!
They would stand AT the door, and blocked other kids who need to get into the class. Making hand-gestures to their kids who were obviously not even looking back. Or Shouting commands like, “K, sit down!….K, don’t do that!….K, that’s wrong Stop It!…..”
If you are one of such parents, can you tell me why do you do that? I know you love your kids but he/she is not in playgroup or nursery already! They are not THAT small! Aren’t you supposed to feel free-to-do-whatever, since you’ve got 3 hours of no-kid time? Wouldn’t you want to make full use of the time and do what you couldn’t do when the kid is around?
Ok, like I was saying, What makes me go really *Urggghhhhh* were the parents. THEY WERE POINTING FINGERS AT US as we were forced to go out of the class and head back home! Then irritating words like,
“Oh dear, my child plays with this boy (referring to my dear still-didn’t-know-what’s-going-on Keatkeat) often….that means my child is in danger now of Hand Foot Mouth Disease!….”
“Oh oh….another one rejected again, this boy must have played with the child who was sick last week.”
“Oh please…parents shouldn’t bring the kid to school if he’s got HFMD…so irresponsible…”
I soooooo wanted to turn my head and give that parent the stare of the devil and scream into her head, “Mdm Normah DID NOT SAY MY CHILD GOT HFMD!!! He got ulcers BECAUSE HE DID NOT DRINK ENOUGH WATER, That’s All!!!
Keatkeat: “Mommy what happened?”
Me: “Mdm Normah didn’t allow you in, because of your mouth ulcers….please drink more water dear…”
Keatkeat: “Mommy, so are we going home now?”
Me: “Yes!”
Keatkeat: “Yeah!!! Then can I go play the Car game since I got nothing to do now?”
Me: *faint!*



July 19th, 2008 at 12:15 am
thess mommies are a bunch of insensitive beings! Hate it..
seriously, I would have just turn around and give them my KILLER STARE!!
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July 19th, 2008 at 2:35 am
silence is the only retort. LONG and blatant silence. Stony silence.
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July 19th, 2008 at 3:20 am
I hope your son is able to go to school next week.
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July 19th, 2008 at 6:48 am
keat2’s ulcers, be gone soon!
terrible parents, those. i wd be damn peeved too. but wat you did was still best lah…ignoring them, rather than reacting overtly which wd only give these “three-eights” something else to talk abt amongst themselves as you walk away.
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July 19th, 2008 at 7:15 am
I would be so pissed if that happened to me. What a bunch of ignorant jerks! I just read your post from yesterday. Hugs my friend!
July 19th, 2008 at 8:27 am
These aunties are soooo aunties! I would stare at them! Hope Keat Keat can go back to school soon…
I remember once when my boy was in the previous school, he had just one ulcer and it was because he bit himself. I told the school that but they insisted that I get the doc to certified that it is not HFMD. My doc laughed when I told him. I mean you can tell the differece right?
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July 19th, 2008 at 9:00 am
Oh… that stinks. We had a similar thing with Strep Throat recently – 16 of 22 kids got it. It was carnage!
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July 19th, 2008 at 9:53 am
erm, I am one of those parents who did not leave and only do so after the teacher closed the door. BUT i did NOT block the entrance and why I stay behind is bcuz I love chatting with the mummies of my girl’s classmates! haha! we juz stand outside and chat abt our kids and other stuffs. when the teacher closes the door is a signal for us, that is time to go back and do housework. hehe.
hope keatkeat can return to school next week.
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July 19th, 2008 at 10:08 am
i know how you must hv felt…some parents are too “protective” over their children…
hope keat keat will be able to go to school next wk…
wah the HFMD so bad in spore?
July 20th, 2008 at 1:33 am
Oh! That’s really sad for your son. If that would have happened with me I would have stared at aunty. Your son must be hurt very much.
July 20th, 2008 at 5:07 am
I’m with Tammy on this!!!I’d be REALLY pissed!!!
I believe I’d talk back!I loose my temper very easily!
What a bunch of sad-ignorant-jerk type of parents!
And the worst is you can find those sort of people every where (Yep…Here in the so called 1st world countries too!!!)Geeeez!
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July 21st, 2008 at 12:16 am
oh I so hate those talk-as-if-you-are-not-there kind of people, especially when they don’t even know what’s going on! You know what.. you should have been mean and said “oh yes he did play with your kid a lot and I think your kid’s got an ulcer too!”
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