Would you?
Child, Parenting, Preschool, School-study October 6th, 2008Would you go for something which cost $15 when you can get it at a much lower price?
Would you let your son go for a ride on the cable car with his classmates, when he had that experience just 4+ months ago at a much cheaper rate?
Would you spend that extra amount so that you could fulfill a childhood wish?
All these questions probably sound meaningless if I didn’t give the full picture eh?
You see, the school is organizing a trip to sit on the Cable Car because its ‘transportation’ week. The aim is to let kids observe the different types of transport viewing through cable-car ride and to explore how and what make the vehicle moves.
I’m the extreme mommy when it comes to outdoor learning activity organized by the school. It’s always a GREEN light from me. Cos I know how terrible it feels when all your friends start talking about the trip on the next school day and YOU have got nothing to comment! And all you could do is sit there and look at them laughed over every single detail of it….and you are all alone sitting at that corner, feeling translucent….thinking “Damn! Why can’t I be there with them?!”
I have been through that too many times. My dad refused to sign the consent forms of any of those trips organised by the schools even when I was in Secondary School.
The only one he agreed was the trip to KuKup Village in Malaysia. That was after alot of crying and teenage whining from me PLUS my Geography Teacher’s persuasion before he finally signed his tiny little signature on that white piece of paper with the big header that reads – ‘Consent Form’.
I told myself over and over again each time my dad rejected a learning trip out of the school boundaries, “I’m NEVER gonna do that to my kids!”
And so even though I know that Keatkeat had just been in that ‘box‘ which carries him through the sky by a cable line less than 5 months ago; AND even though I know I’m paying more for him to go this time; I still said “YES” without hesitation.
This is THE FIRST TIME the school invited the family members to join!!! I have ALWAYS wished to get my butt in that ‘box’, but the miser in me said “no” when I saw the price. My sis has a discount card which gives quite a good saving off the actual amount.
And if I go, Binbin will have to follow too. When you are a Full Time SAHM, where you go, your children will follow. They are like your shadows, the only difference is they have all those cutie expressions and they definitely talk-back!
Then that would be extra cost too. The school is charging $11 for each child and $15 for each adult. So if I decide to fulfill my wish, then I’ll be paying a total of $37 for the 3 of us. Allan is afraid of heights, so he is never gonna bring me there. This seemed like the only chance for me, but I feel the pinch to give that extra, its hard to shake off that calculative-me after so many years in the retail line, where you realized the ‘real value’ of things.
The miser won. I paid $11 only for Keatkeat and he will be a happy lad on 14th Oct 2008 when he is up in the sky again.
This morning, Mdm Normah asked: “Hey Mommy, you are going with Cheng Keat for the cable car ride, right?”
“No…” I replied flatly and was going *sigh* in my heart…
“Oh! *Laugh* Cos I wrote 2 persons but only received one person’s $” She giggled.
“Ohhh…you wanted me to go huh?” I joked. And the two of us laughed so loud….
that’s how comfortable we are with each other…I think I’ll miss her next year, when she will not be teaching Keatkeat nor Binbin, ‘cos she has been assigned to Kindergarten 1 class permanently starting next year….hmmm….
October 7th, 2008 at 6:52 am
In elementary school my dad took work off many times to go on field trips with us. It is something that I still appreciate.
October 7th, 2008 at 8:43 am
I’m as cheap as they come, but I also recognize the importance of being included. I can see a line out there on the horizon that I might be forced to draw though. Those highschool trips to Cuba might just be out for my kids, for more reason than money, though.
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October 7th, 2008 at 8:52 am
is it most men are afraid of heights? hehe..bcuz my hubby is the same as Allan too!
KeatKeat is only 4+months when he was up the cable car and so he may/may not have the impression. so I would say yes too, hmm…maybe after much consideration as you know, I worry a deal when my girl goes on excursion. :P
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October 7th, 2008 at 10:17 am
we all wanted the best for our kids right, angeline? we tried hard thinking back of what we couldn’t have during our childhood days, and we hope we will gv a chance to our kids if we could afford in all means…
having said that, a lot of ppl were asking us why are we throwing a bday bash for our 1 yr old daughter when she is still small and still doesnt understand what does bday means…well, i dont remember having a grand bday party (neither does hubby!) so we feel we wanted something special and grand for our daughter even she is only 1 yr old!
so i understand that kind of feeling…
keat keat is one lucky boy cos his mummy is so kind, considerate and willing to do anything to make the boy happy! kudos to you!
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October 7th, 2008 at 10:46 am
Ling,
misunderstanding!
Keatkeat was up on the cable car 4+months AGO, meaning he went there THIS YEAR in the month of May. Remember, my sis brought them to Sentosa?
Other than guys of my age, I noticed many are afraid of heights.. *wink*
October 7th, 2008 at 10:55 am
Hey..I wd have also decided like u.. let My son go whether he went last week or last month ..no matter waht..the happiness goign with frens is amazing i Know.. for me ..when i was in my childhood ,My dad has to be persuaded with letter from my teacher n so many recommendations from my MOM… and though i was the school rep, scout leader, i was always the last to give the consent form with so much of persuasions behind me.. For Yuvan..let him go ..as long as itz safe for him n taken good care off!!!
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October 7th, 2008 at 12:29 pm
i wont go on the cable ride either unless my child requests for me to accompany her. for that money, i would rather buy myself a nice cold drink and wait at Starbucks. :)
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October 7th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
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October 7th, 2008 at 2:31 pm
Zac’s school taught them abt transportation a few months ago too. That’s where we have to help them out with creating a transport using recycled materials. Its cool KK is able to sit on the cable car once again. I could understand the pinch with the costly ticket.
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October 7th, 2008 at 3:14 pm
as always, u have been a great mum. I think such thing is ok for the kids to join so that they don’t feel left out. As for yourself, if I m u, I will try to convince the husband to go :)
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October 7th, 2008 at 3:47 pm
opps! I never read the sentence properly..hahaha…miss out on the word “AGO”
hehe!
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October 7th, 2008 at 8:45 pm
I hear ya! My daughter told me yesterday she needed $80 for a school trip on Friday. That’s not much notice.
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October 7th, 2008 at 9:51 pm
I think many of us are trying to ‘give’ what we did not receive when we are young. maybe you should just close one eyes and let yourself and Bin-Bin have fun too?
October 7th, 2008 at 11:27 pm
Yes! My kids had gone to all their kindy’s outings. Even those that we’ve been a few times. I think the experience and the memory of going with school and friends are so different from going with family. Something that can’t be measured monetarily. So, as long as it’s affordable, even if it’s pricier than what you can get otherwise, it’s a go with me. And since you’re unlikely to go on your own, the discount shouldn’t be a factor at all. Afterall, the discount is only of value if you actually make use of it.
October 8th, 2008 at 12:00 am
I have been on that cable car! I went there ten years ago for Christmas! Memories!
He will have fun going with his friends and maybe get see extra things that they don’t normally show.
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October 8th, 2008 at 6:42 am
First off sorry that your Dad did that to you. I think you definitely did the right thing letting KeatKeat go!!!
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October 9th, 2008 at 2:56 pm
Sorry to hear about what your dad did…
I think you are a fantastic mom, everything you do, you think of your kids first.
I think I am a very ‘sticky’ mom. If I can follow my kids, I will.
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October 10th, 2008 at 6:51 pm
Hi Angeline
At the moment, becos I’m a SAHM and living on one income, my K1 child sometimes gets to go on field trips that cost S$12, but sometimes I say no to those that are $24 – like the one to Asian Civilisation Museum in Nov. I feel it is ok for me to explain to my child, oh, that is too expensive – and we have just been there recently when the Museums had Free Museum Day. I feel that it is never too early to teach a child about choices and budgeting. And when my child doesn’t go for the field trip, she is home with me, and we play!
But when I was working (double income) – my kids went for all the field trips becos 1) we need not watch our budget 2)I wud be at work and not be able to spend the day with my kid (so it was better they go for the field trip than stay home with the maid).
I read your story and profile – I am sure yr life experiences has made you a very strong person – a survivor. My mom played mahjong too, since I was a kid, and we had some problems but it did not get as bad as yours. Given all that you had to go thru growing up, I think you coped and adjusted remarkably well. You’re amazing, and yr kids are lucky to have an amazing mom like you.
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