All About Your Child

QingMing is a time when Chinese pays respect to their loved ones who had passed away.

hot : Without fail, during this time of the year, it is one of the hottest days. With the extra smoke from the million of incense sticks, burning of those paper money, paper bungalows, paper convertibles, paper LV bags, paper mobile phone, paper massage chair….etc, no doubt they add on to the heat.

Allan was joking away saying that they should burn paper banks! “So much money received and no banks to earn interest??” *giggle*

His joke went further to paper ATMs machine, paper ATM cards, paper safe-box and paper Condominiums! *laugh* He said, “They can start renting out the Condos and earn a living….So many houses and bungalows, the land space should be running out, they should consider ‘building’ high rise.” *laugh*

His joking mood went to extremity when he remarked, “They only get to eat ONCE A YEAR! Aaawww… so pitiful, we should start burning paper restaurants!!!!” *huge laugh*

Alright, what has all these got to do with children?

Well, my boys loved it because they were asking countless questions as they listened to their dad’s funny deductions. *giggle*

I realised Keatkeat’s questions are getting more profound which I really like! It trains my brain to come out with even better answers.

“Why must we bring food?”
“How would we know when the ‘ghost’ of my greatgrandparents have finish their meal?”
“How would we know if they are still hungry and that we brought too little food for them?”
……..on and on and on….

Hot : Being surrounded by so much smoke and heat, it is surprising that the HUNDREDS who were there, were holding their tempers really well. It was some kind of mutual understanding that at such places, one should not flare up.

So did I get pissed being ‘interrogated‘ under such intense weather? No. I love questions~! The only way to learn is to ask questions! Keep them coming boys! *Smile*

(It is a taboo to take photos at the such places because you’ll never know when your camera might catch the image of a spirit having his meal.

So I took a quick shot. But you can still see the ‘mess’ in the background)

Yesterday was extra special: They had their very first chance to try Chewing Gum. Gum was banned in Singapore way before they were born. So to them, this is truly something new! For the very first time, their Papa said “Chew chew chew and don’t swallow.”

*laugh*

This is hilarious to me, because Every meal time, their Papa would always say “Chew chew chew for so long and still don’t swallow???!!! SWALLOW NOW!”

*laugh*

Binbin always welcome new things but not Keatkeat. So Binbin tried and made a genuine attempt to chew till it was tasteless.

Keatkeat passed the gum back to the giver (my eldest SIL) without even considering, yet he pretended so well in that photo (as if he can’t wait to get it into his mouth) What an actor! *eyes rolled* Any movie director or modeling company photographer reading this post? *wink*

First Chewing Gum experience review? Binbin shook his head and said, “Don’t like it. Don’t give me EVER again ah!” *giggle* He never liked the taste of peppermint anyway.

HOT : This morning, Keatkeat woke up with FEVER!!! 38.4. Guess the many glups of cool plain water and cans of ice-cold water yesterday did not help. *sigh*

Crossing my Fingers and Toes as I say this : I just hope it is NOT Dengue Fever. It is Peak Session for Dengue Fever and he was out the whole day and…. had 1 mosquitoe bite. *Fingers and Toes still crossed*

We will be off to the Clinic after fetching Binbin… let’s hope I would bring back good news…

Updated on 13th April 3.56pm: Thank you everyone. Doctor doesn’t know what was wrong. Anyway, Keatkeat is alright now. Took one day MC yesterday and back to school today.

A baby’s first language is cry. That is a God-given gift. That was the only way a baby can communicate his pain or discomfort.

Yet, when a parent rushes to him WHENEVER he went ‘wiaahh‘ a little, the baby is smart enough to know that crying has become a weapon.

The baby grows to a toddler and the weapon becomes even more powerful. From a tearless cry, the toddler has now ‘trained‘ his tear-glands to secrete liquid whenever he wants something; or worse, DEMANDS for something which he knows is forbidden.

Once the parent gives in once, there will be a second time and a third and the ‘cry-weapon‘ becomes DANGEROUS.

A parent, who is so used to giving in to the whims and fancies of the toddler, has become the victim of the ‘crying torturer’. Almost to the extend of so-long-as-you-could-stop-crying-I’ll-do-what-you-want.

Why did I say the ‘cry-weapon’ becomes Dangerous as the child grows? ‘Cos whoever made him cry, he would point at the person and the parent will SCOLD or PUNISH or HIT the new victim.

Over time, so long as the cry-master starts showing off his crying-kungfu, the parent, without even checking out the reason for the tears would start to ‘shoot fire’ at the nearest person standing beside the crying child.

OVER THE YEARS, I had witnessed. So many times I had kept my mouth shut because no parent likes someone else, no matter who that person is, to scold his child.

But Today, enough is enough, no one ever let this little cry tyrant know that crying is a gift and NOT something to be abused, or worse, to be used against someone whom he does not like.

I raised my voice at him. He was shocked! For the very first time, he was the one being scolded when he is still sniffing up his mucus with his finger pointing at the poor victim.

He sat down, with his eyes wide on me. Volume went down too. I walked out of the room after giving him his first lecture. Did not even want to look at the parent’s face, ‘cos it would definitely be unpleasant.

I may have done wrong to scold him…. but my ‘little test’ has proven that this little tyrant can be subdued, if only the adults BOTHER to do it!

***I did something extraordinary today because this little tyrant’s ‘potential victimS ‘were having a wonderful quiet time playing together. I do NOT want him to spoil what is so blissful and rare.

Then again, to some, especially to the parent, this might not be an excuse to raise my voice on his child.….