Me? Omma?
Child March 16th, 2012
My nieces are so INTO K-POP that they started giving themselves Korean names and even started to speak a teeny weeny bit of Korean.
During Binbin’s birthday celebration at the Chalet, they started calling me “Omma“. They said they had always wished that I was their Mother. A statement that felt very sweet and very sad to my ears at the same time.
It showed how much they loved me and how little they feel for their REAL mothers.
Well, I thought this way of addressing me will be gone after we bid farewell when the chalet fun ended.
I was surprised when I received the birthday invitation card from my 2nd niece with the word “Omma” written. Hhhmm…. I know how their home situation are like and am even more familiar with the lack of bonding they have with their parents (not just Mother alone).
I love how they trusted and shared their inner most secrets with me. Read this blog post “I am Loving It“. However, I do not know if they continue to call me “Omma“, will it have any adverse effect.
As I see my SILs every Sunday, somehow I feel a little uncomfortable when the girls call me “Omma” infront of their mothers.
If my children start calling another woman “Omma“, I know that it would be a STRONG WAKE-UP CALL for me as a parent, at the same time I would feel devastated.
Should I stop them from calling me “Omma”? Well, its common for kids to have “GodMom” too, right? Or am I thinking too much?
Me? Omma?
March 20th, 2012 at 12:33 pm
I agree with you on the ‘wake-up call’. I would be totally upset should my son deem to call any other relative or otherwise “Omma” or its equivalent in any other language… and really reflect on the situation.
Kids are honest, sometimes brutally so. I may be wrong, and I wouldn’t know what the actual situation as you mentioned is like – but I do believe that it may be their way of ‘reaching out’ on the lack of ‘motherly figure’ in their lives?
March 20th, 2012 at 11:31 pm
Hi Regina,
actually what my nieces need is just someone to listen to them and not judge them nor correct them.
I guess, most parents are always too eager to reprimand their children before their kids could even finish their sentences… *sigh*
Its sad, but its the case for many of the parents I know.
May 6th, 2012 at 5:02 pm
Hiya… Oh wow… what a dilemma. I agree with Regina, I personally would feel sad & awkward if my sons were to have such a term of endearment to anyone else. But if your SILs are fine, maybe can get them to call you Godma or something? That would probably go down better with them. Just my two cents. :)
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