My Son Hates his Name!
Child September 3rd, 2012Today, Keatkeat blurted: “I Hate it when people call me Cheng Ki-at! I want them to call Cheng K-eat!”
*scream*
I know I have mentioned it before in this blog post “For The 3rd Time” that ALL his teachers call him Cheng Ki-at, instead of Cheng K-eat, or to be clearer, its pronounced as Cheng Kit.
When I was pregnant with Keatkeat, Allan and I took special effort to make sure that his name could not be made fun of, but little did we expect that what sounded like ‘Kit‘ to us, actually was pronounced as ‘Kiat‘ to 99% of the people.
His name on the birth certificate is Cheng Keat.
‘Eat‘ with a ‘K‘ infront, should sound like ‘Kit‘, wouldn’t it?
Well, after so many years, it has proven to us that it does NOT to majority of the people.
To many whom we met, ‘Keat‘ is actually pronounced as ‘Kiat‘.
Now that we go to Malaysia so often, NONE, yes, NONE of the custom officers pronounced Keatkeat’s name the way we intended it to be pronounced. He is very upset and I could do NOTHING to help!
*scream*
So I decided to give him an additional name ‘Zac‘. I informed all his teachers and even wrote the name ‘Zac‘ on all his school books. I was hoping that his teachers would now call him ‘Zac‘ instead and not by his dialect name anymore.
To my great disappointment, Keatkeat’s teachers said that ‘Zac‘ is NOT reflected in his Birth Certificate, hence it is not recorded in the school system, therefore they REFUSED to call him ‘Zac‘.
Small Note: His spelling has changed recently from ‘Zac’ to ‘Zec‘, as in ‘Zechariah’.
I checked with ICA and found out that I could NOT change his name until he is 15 years old, when he does his IC registration in school.
He is only turning 9 years old in November this year, he had to go through this agony for another 6 years?! *heart dropped*
I am angry with myself for NOT checking how people usually pronounce ‘Keat‘ before its printed on his Birth Certificate.
Now, its all too late and there is nothing I could do to help my child.
I am so sorry, Keatkeat……
*hands covered face*
My Son Hates his Name!
September 5th, 2012 at 8:42 am
Why don’t u try adding the hanyu pinyin version of the name instead of changing it? That should help.
September 5th, 2012 at 8:43 am
For Hokkien dialect, Keat will be pronounced as “K-iat”, it’s a norm that people just don’t see Chinese name the English way :(
September 5th, 2012 at 9:53 am
Yes Siaw Lee,
Only now, then I know… *slap slap slap*
I should have gone further to check before I confirmed his name on his birth cert.
My due diligence was not done well…
Now, its too late liao???
*cry*
September 5th, 2012 at 9:55 am
Evelyn,
even adding the hanyu pinyin name ALSO need to wait till he register for his IC.
*sob*
I want to do something that can CHANGE immediately or make him have an ‘easier‘ life, because it ISmy mistake.
September 5th, 2012 at 11:03 am
Actually you can still change his name if you go to the lawyers and make a statutory declaration /name change. A GF of mine changed all her 3 kids names after advice from a Fengshui master..so it is possible to change his name before he is 15 yrs old. She did it a few years back and her eldest is now in p2. Maybe you can find out more.
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September 5th, 2012 at 11:31 am
What’s in a name?
September 5th, 2012 at 3:59 pm
Guess you shouldn’t blame yourself too hard *pats* 6 years will pass by.
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September 5th, 2012 at 4:53 pm
Yes Dominique,
Thank you dear.
I was so upset yesterday that I wrote an email to a Law Firm that does Deed Poll, seeking for help.
The law firm replied a couple of hours ago granting us an appointment to discuss this.
Now waiting for them to confirm the time and date of appointment.
*fingers crossed*
September 7th, 2012 at 5:28 pm
Oh!! but don’t felt so sorry, i think he will be loving his name in the future…hopefully, he will to used it.
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