All About Your Child

Niece handed an assignment to me yesterday when I was at her house.
Topic?
DATING.
Questions like:
“What is dating?”
“When is the right age to date? Why?”
“How should a couple behave when dating?”
etc etc

Her school required her to interview her parents.
Her immediate response was “NO!”
Even though the teacher said that it would bring back good memories of dating which her parents had.
“You won’t understand….its different from what you think” was ringing in her head.

Niece was so happy to know that she had another option : Interview a TRUSTED ADULT.
She told me: “Immediately I thought of (you) Shen Shen!”
Aaawwwww…..

Do you know how much that means to me????!
A LOT!!!
To be able to have a place in her heart, even though we do not stay together, even though we do not communicate every day, even though there were times we may not agree on something completely……
I am grateful to know I have portrayed myself as someone whom she can turn to when it comes to ‘Sensitive Topics’
and being the first person to come to her mind, I guessed my butt is firmly rooted on that seat in her mind.

Thank you Z.Y.!
*hugs*

Me? A Trusted Adult?

I am a strong believer of being joyful and staying happy.
When a person is happy, the whole world is viewed through different lens.
Lens of goodness.
Lens of opportunities.

In life, there will be imperfection and unpleasant surprises thrown at us.
I do get upset.
I do have negative thoughts too.
However, the key point is HOW LONG DO I ALLOW MYSELF to be in that bad state of mind?
For me, very short.
A couple of hours?
A day or two max!

But THIS takes practice!
Tons of Practice!
And it starts with controlling our tongue!

Words that are spoken cannot be retrieved, just like a cup of spilled milk.
So if the words which came out of the mouth is of low value, the damage will be done to the receiver, regardless of how many “I’m So Sorry, Please Forgive Me.” is said after that.
The wound may heal, but the scar remains.

Thus, I often remind Kitkit and Binbin, if you have NOTHING GOOD TO SAY, KEEP QUIET.
Focus on the Good, not the bad.

Yesterday, Kitkit handed this to me, which was stapled onto his Composition Paper.
He said: “Mummy, read my Strength. Don’t look at ‘What to Work On’. You know, that’s rather negative. ‘Cos ‘What to Work On’ means I did not do a good job in that area. So don’t talk about negative things. Just look at MY Strength, ok?”

What a perfect way to escape from being reprimanded, by using my words on me.
*laugh*
*thumbs up*

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