Girls Home Again
Child, Handling Misbehaviour, Parenting, Pregnant March 23rd, 2009Back in March last year, when most of you haven’t found me in this super huge blogosphere yet, I posted something that ached my heart alot.
Allan has a friend whose daughter was ‘forced’ to be placed in a girl’s home by her own father. Full Story over here.
Recently, Allan had a client whose daughter is in girl’s home too. Similar fate. She was requested by her own parents to put her ‘behind locked doors‘. How sad. I did a post on Children in the past vs the Present. Are the kids of today harder to discipline? Or are the parents not getting involved enough with their child’s progress? The main focus was on Allan’s friend’s daughter’s behaviour.
But today’s spotlight is on a different girl, with a different issue. She is 16. Have a toddler. Unmarried. Haven’t got a clue who could be the father of the toddler. Now, she is pregnant again. Same thing. Too many sex partners. No one wants to take up the responsibility.
Her parents’ didn’t spare the rod on her.
But her skin has thickened over the years, the caning doesn’t hurt anymore.
Her bones have been tested so often, it has broken too many rods.
Her parents surrendered.
Instead of asking help from the Almighty in the heavens, they sought help from the mortals on earth – Girls Home.
*Deep sigh*
So go read those 2 posts if you have time, we are definitely in the era of ‘Challenging-Parenting’. Lots of ‘upgrading‘ on our side to meet the ‘standards‘ of today’s kids. Hmmm….
Children in the past vs the Present
March 24th, 2009 at 12:36 am
this is so sad, I don’t know what to say. Nobody wants their child to turn out this way…yet sometime I feel, as parents we can never know for sure, we can only try out best, yet, what is best?
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March 24th, 2009 at 2:44 am
hmm….sorry i can not stop to see full story ;)
omg….16 years and have a toddler and now pregnant again??? oh boy….that is difficult situation
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March 24th, 2009 at 5:26 am
It’s very hard. Sometimes the parents haven’t done the right things–yet other times, they have done their best and the young girl still chooses to “run wild.” I feel for all of them.
March 24th, 2009 at 5:51 am
im not sure who is to blame. sometimes its the parents fault. other times you just cant control older kids i guess. but to give up like that seems so sad
March 24th, 2009 at 8:43 am
It’s so sad.. and I’m also very scared reading all these. I heard so many similar stories. Parenting is not easy nowadays… There really needs to be good communiaction between parent and child… yet again, we never know how strong the peer pressure and influences in school could affect the child!
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March 24th, 2009 at 9:41 am
I have some thougts on the subject and they are not pleasing. I read back on your link….and i could not help but think that kids do dot go bad for no reason. Often I believe they are acting out at forces, at a power beyond their control.
I say, and this is where I may alienate you, that were one to peer deeply into the life of that girl? That perhaps there was some abuse in her past.
just saying. daddy might not be all he appears to be.
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March 24th, 2009 at 10:20 am
crazymumma,
guess what?
as I get to know Allan’s friend that much more over time, I have the exact same feeling as you…
*sigh*
March 24th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
teenage is such a difficult time to handle…sigh….
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March 24th, 2009 at 1:47 pm
in my opinion, the parents are the biggest culprits! As the chinese saying goes “yang bu jiao, fu zi guo”
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March 24th, 2009 at 2:07 pm
Kiddos nowadays and olden times are never the same…
March 24th, 2009 at 5:09 pm
Now, parenting is a lot more challenging than the olden days. My aunt’s son (14yrs old) already in a relationship with a 16 years old girl!! I also worried about kid(s) when they grew older later.
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March 24th, 2009 at 7:32 pm
I feel sad for both parents and the girls. Girls are by all means very sensitive and easily hurt emotionally (compared to boys)… which means more love and attention needed … I really discourage parents sending their kids to the girls home. Alternatively, parents can find other boarding school (with strict discipline) and set a distance between both parties for a certain period. Both parties will have less quarrel and appreciate each other more when they meet up after a semester … Just my two cents thoughts to share.
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March 24th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
You would think after the first baby she would have grown up. That is very sad.
March 25th, 2009 at 4:02 am
I think there’s no right or wrong, only a growing together and supporting each other, guiding each other and with any luck, it will all turn out. Sometimes we can’t see the future, though.
March 25th, 2009 at 1:45 pm
its definately not easy being a parent these days. but i strongly believe good family bond/ties will somehow help. If the kids grow up in a warm/love family, the chances of them seeking “love & attention” elsewhere is lesser.