All About Your Child

There is always something to learn every single day as a parent. We make mistakes like any and every other human being. Are we courageous enough to admit our mistake and apologise to our children?

Its sad, but its true that many parents still feel that their ego overrules their relationship with their children. When they make a mistake, they do not apologise, in fact, they try to find excuses for their mistake.

If you cannot even say “Sorry“, for the wrongs you have done to your child. What right do you have to ask your child to say “Sorry” when he or she has made a mistake.

Even from a simple task of choosing a birthday cake, there are lessons to be learned.

I wanted to buy this cake from Aunty Yochana. I think its cuter and will make more people go “Wow!”, thinking that it would make the birthday boy, Binbin, happier.

Yes, every of those thoughts were all mine. None were from the birthday boy.

Me: “Binbin, shall I get this cake for you on your birthday?”

BinBin: “No. So cartoon. I am not a baby or a 3 year-old anymore. I am a big boy already.”

He continued to say, “I want to buy chocolate cake. The whole thing is chocolate. I want the crunchy thing inside the cake too.” He remembered his birthday cake on his 3rd birthday.

The only cake shop I found out, that could add in the crunchy crispy chocolate chips inside the cake was Bengawan Solo.

And so we went.

However, only the BIG cakes have this option. Though 17 people are coming for Binbin’s Birthday Chalet, but none are truly cake lovers. They are always asking, “Smaller piece for me please?”

And we do not intend to bring home the unfinished cake or end up eating it for breakfast for the following few days. From our experience, a good cake size would be 0.5kg.

Since the crunchy crispy chocolate chips idea is gone, I was trying my best to psycho Binbin NOT to buy from Bengawan Solo, because I prefer cakes from other cake shops.

Binbin: “Mommy I want to buy from here.”

Me: “Remember Four Leaves Cake Shop? You like the chocolate cake there right? Shall we go there?”

Binbin: “I don’t want. I like the cake here. I don’t want chocolate cake already.”

Me: “Huh? So what cake do you want?”

His answer was no surprise to me. Being a FRUIT KING, he chose fruit cake. *faint*

Me: “But Binbin, all the children (coming for the chalet) like chocolate cake. Go buy chocolate cake ok?”

Binbin: “No. I want THIS (pointing at the cake in the chiller) Mango Cake.”

Me: “If you want to eat mango, I can buy mango for you during the Chalet. We buy chocolate cake ok?”

Binbin (looking really frustrated): “Mommy! Its my Birthday!!! You always say Birthday Boy can choose his cake. I want this Mango Cake.”

*Slapping Myself inside*

Me: “I’m so sorry. Ok, ok. We shall get the Mango Cake for your birthday.”

Its NOT what I think my son would like that matters, its WHAT DOES HE REALLY WANT that is crucial.

Parents often think they know what is best for their children. Not true.

So often, parents bring their kids for overseas trip, thinking that their kids would appreciate and enjoy it. When you open your heart and think deep, is it REALLY the kids’ wish to go overseas? NO. Its the adults who want to go overseas.

The saddest part is, after the trip, parents start to say things like “Hey, I brought you to Japan/Disneyland/Universal Studios/Taiwan/etc, and now you give me this type of attitude. I really regret bringing you for the trip.”

In the first place, if the child did NOT ask for the trip, such statement is truly uncalled for.

So often, its the parents who are excited about the overseas trip, yearning to have a short holiday, suggested their idea to their children and try to make them feel the same excitement.

But in actual fact, it was NOT the kids’ idea.

How often do we try to instill our own ideas and thoughts into our children and indirectly ‘force‘ them to think and behave what WE WANT them to behave.

Are you sure you are doing what is best for your child?

What Parents Think is Best,
Sometimes May Do More Harm Than Good To Their Child.
~ Angeline Foong