All About Your Child

This morning was Binbin’s year end ‘teachers-parents meet up session’. Most parents would look forward to this day, with a ‘hope for the best, prepare for the worst’ kind of mindset. *wink*

For Allan and I, we are more concerned about our child’s character development. For kids at 5, it is very easy for them to ‘pick up’ things, be it good or bad. Peer pressure is the key, once the child starts schooling.

His teacher’s feedback was one of the nicest thing that any parent would want to hear:

“I have only been with this school for 3 terms. When I first came, everything was new to me. The environment, the teachers and the students. I was still wondering how much time would I need to ‘bland’ into the new place.

Zen was the only kid who made me feel comfortable then. He was the first child who made me feel welcome. He would report to me about his classmates, his feelings, his thoughts. Very few children would go to the teacher for a chat. Most students go to a teacher either for a complain or to seek help. But Zen comes to me like a friend and chats with me.

“Zen is a very special boy. He always gives surprises and thinks out of the box. His perception of things are very different from his peers, whom I have taught before.

For example, this picture, he told me, “Miss S., I did not draw my face because I am looking at the food on the shelf and this black colour is my hair.” I was impressed.

“He is always showing concern for his classmates and very observant. He can even tell me how many days each of his friends have been absent from school. Even I had to catch up with his level of preciseness.” Miss S. laughed.

*giggle*

Of course, without fail, like all the other teachers, Miss S. went on to commend that Binbin has no problem expressing himself. Binbin’s Chinese teacher elaborated on his extend of expressiveness, “Zheng Bing would show his affection by hugging his friends, regardless of their gender.”

It was a bonus too, to hear from the teachers that Binbin’s academic results fall into the ‘Average Group’. *smile*

We hope that Binbin will continue his expressiveness, so long as he does not start grabbing girls to kiss. *giggle*
Nah.
He would not.
He has already made it loud and clear that he allows only his Mommy to kiss him and be kissed by him. *wink*

How important is Your Child’s Character Development to you?

My firstborn turns 7 when the clock strikes 12 tonight… My heart is so filled with emotions and I cannot put a finger to it. I wanted to blog about the journey of these 7 years, the laughter, the tears, the anger, the peace, the snuggle in bed and the ‘leave me alone’ moments….

As if I was talking to my spirit:
“You and Your Child have gone through so much, especially ‘this’ child of yours.
What do you want to say to him today?
How do you intend to tell your child how much you love him?
You and Your Child,
a relationship which was once so weak has now become so strong.
What are the most appropriate words you can say that can fully express what is in your heart?
Yet,
it has to be a language that a 7 year old mind can comprehend.
What would be the best sentence?
“I love you(s)” are said everyday,
can you find another sentence that can express more than those 3 words to say to your child?”

I laid beside my elder son,
stroking his head
smelling his unbrushed breath
looking at his half-opened eyes and
slightly opened mouth…

I looked at the clock,
its time to wake him up for school
yet,
my spirit spoke again:
“Do you really want to break this moment of serenity? How many more years do you think you can lie beside your child this way?”

I laid silent
close enough to smell his hair,
but not interrupting his dream

forgetting that time waits for no man
15mins passed
he is going to be late for school if I still don’t wake him up
for a moment,
a sudden sadness came over…

I hugged him.

He woke,
he smiled,
he said: “I love you, Mommy.”
and he hugged me back.

Sometimes what HUGS can express, supersedes what all languages and words can express….

You and Your Child,
are you loving every moment,
even on the most ordinary day?

I Love You KeatKeat….. *hugs*