All About Your Child

To me, its pointless to keep nagging.

What does go into the ears and hopefully the brain of the child WILL GO IN. And what doesn’t, stays outside.

I ever wrote a strong post about how much I believe in letting the child learn through EXPERIENCE , instead of giving warnings or spoken teaching. Sorry, I forgot the name of that post, so could not link it.

Of course, I would not be brainless as to push them towards the fire.
I would warn, for life-threatening things.
I would reason, for behaviourial issues.
I would re-wire, for mindset stuff.
BUT, if warning has been given, reason has been laid out, re-wiring has been done and my boy still choose to do it his way.
I WILL ALLOW.

So learn it the hard way boy….
Wham!!!
The sofa arm rest slammed onto his big toe…..
He is famous for super pain tolerance.
But even superboy could not hold back his tears.
He literally wailed!!!

I cannot even recall when was the last time he cried this loud and that long a duration! *scratch head*

Since last Friday, Allan and I have been revamping our house a little.
Painted the living room and the kitchen.
Bought a number of DIY furnitures from IKEA.
Wrapped the new cupboards with wallpaper, ‘cos we did not like the colour, but the size of the cupboards were too perfect to give them a miss.
Cleared lots of clothes and toys….. etc etc

Finally after so long, we are done with the fixing!
Man!
We are exhausted!!!!

Just left with the clearing and transferring from the old storage to the new.

So Binbin got his swollen toe on Saturday and it became completely black the next day.

Today, it looked a little detached!!!
I would not be surprised if the nail would fall off man!
Its still tender when touched upon…. Hhmmm….

Well, at least the toe-bones were not crushed under the sofa arm rest.
Its a DIY sofa, so the arm rest and the body are separated.
I had said enough of “Leave the sofa alone. Step away. Go eat tibits. Go do this, go do that…. just STAY AWAY from the unfixed sofa!”

Still….
a climb over here,
a crawl over there,
a push over here and…..
WHAM!!!
the sofa arm rest just slammed right onto his toe….

oh well, another lesson learned through the ‘Wham’ way…. *eyes rolled*

To me, children’s world is everything about simplicity. Pure fun and honesty surrounds every corner. What is secret? To them at this age, below 6, all that they know is sharing the great news.

Things which made them happy. Events which made them angry. Experiences which caused a tear in their eye. They let it all out in words. To them keeping a secret is as good as going against every cell in their body.

You ask them to keep a secret, they ask “WHY?”

Which in fact, is a fantastic question!!!

It was Allan’s birthday few months back. He happily ran to his Papa and said, “I made a card for you and hide it in your laptop.” *faint*

Me: “Shhhh… Binbin, its supposed to be a surprise.”

Binbin: “But Papa would be happier to know it now, right? Don’t need to wait till he go home then know mah.”

Yesterday, Binbin did it again.

Binbin: “Ah Yee (my younger sis), we bought a cake for you already.”

Me: “Shhhh…. Binbin!”

My Sis: “What did you say Binbin?” (even though it was obvious that she heard it, but she just played along. *laugh*)

Binbin got the clue and left the room in silence.

It made me think. Why am I trying to teach my children? To suppress their excitement? To prevent them from making another person happy, by spreading the good news? Why don’t I just let them say what they want to say?

What if they learned the wrong message that ‘not all things need to be said’? *pout* That would be the last thing I want. I want them to continue the way they share their little daily ups and downs with me. Every little thoughts that go into their head, they express explicitly.

I want things to stay this way…… come to think of it, “Surprise” is not such a big thing afterall. In fact, sometimes it could be a big disappointment. *Wink*